Your greatest foe is yourself. Your best ally is failure

You’ve all sorts of dreams and ambitions. You want to be your own boss, make loads of money, work from home and have all the financial freedom in the world.
Feeling totally inspired at the start, you thought that you could achieve them all.
But sometimes you just feel like giving up. Because it’s so damn hard. You KNEW starting a business or a blog would be a hard, but not THIS hard.
And when you fail, you think that’s the end of it all.
Now whose fault is it? The economy? Your lack of time? That no one is there to mentor you? Or your surroundings which makes it impossible to chase your dreams?
This may sound harsh: But none of the above are correct.
If this was supposed to be a blame game in the first place
Then you can only blame yourself.
I know. It’s not your fault.
A lot of things are out of your control right? Like you can’t quit your job to pursue your dreams, or you can’t help but feel tired after work cause you’re only human.
But let me put it straight for you…
There are no excuses, when it comes to dreams
Anything external or from your surroundings are boils down to you.
If anything, the only thing that’s holding you back from your dreams is you.
Why are you your greatest foe?


Anything external or beyond your control are nothing but a constant . They just happen. They move, whether you like it or not.
But you, you have the power of choice.
It’s ENTIRELY UP TO YOU to perceive what happens around you to be good or bad. It’s all your attitude.
Maybe that sounds a little cliché, but my own choice words to see things around me it would be,” The world doesn’t stop throwing shit at you, whether you like it or not. So you might as well make a positive spin out of it.”
This is what separates a champion from failure
So take a step back, and ask yourself how much do you want your dreams? Am I making up excuses?? Are the external forces so bad that a little extra effort won’t get rid of them?
Now who is your ally in this game?


Guess what? It’s failure.
Failure is your biggest ally and he’d stick by you all the way.
It is through failure where you learn your greatest lessons.
Failure gives you the opportunity to pick yourself up and go forward.
Failure makes it clear for you what is right and what is wrong (so you won’t keep repeating the same mistakes)
In other words, failure makes things real for you.
Here’s a question:
How often do you feel inspired by people who go against the odds and pick themselves up? It’s easy to think, “Oh wow that’s inspiring. They must be really talented and hardworking”.


Well maybe. But guess what? They all failed before.
The Bealtes- Turned down by a recording company who didn’t like their sound.
Michael Jordan- Cut from his own high school basketball.
Walt Disney- Fired from a newspaper, saying he lacked original ideas.
Abraham Lincoln- Fiancé died, had a nervous breakdown and defeated in eight elections.
Now, what do you think they did with the failure they had?
Real failure only comes when you stop trying


Failure isn’t the end. It never was meant to be.
The power of choice again is always in you. After getting beaten down, losing or being discouraged, do you want give up or just try again?
All too often people always think that failure sucks. It comes with a crappy feeling and everyone is probably going to look down on you. When you fail, you can’t pick yourself up again…
… That’s bullshit man.
You shouldn’t have to feel bad for failure.
It is the failing that creates the realness that allows you to forge your own path to success.
You only truly fail when you stop trying.
So don’t stop.
And one day, you’ll be the one telling others of your famous failures.

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  1. Jason "J-Ryze" Fonceca - April 28, 2012 10:34 pm

    Well, now I feel like I’m in good company 🙂

    Jason “J-Ryze” Fonceca –

    Quit his job and dumped his gf in the same evening to begin a 7-year journey of entrepreneurial failure. 8 failed businesses. 12 failed business partners. Homeless, twice. Time in jail. Betrayed. Lost all possessions.

    • alden - April 29, 2012 5:51 pm

      Haha dude, you definitely have the biggest story to tell. You have the most allies!

    • Denise - May 5, 2012 3:05 am

      Jason, love how you flaunt your failure and then totally capitalize on it, by sharing your story to inspire others/ help them succeed.

      Alden, love the message here.. I’m currently, like.. today.. celebrating a recent failure of my own.. ryze up 🙂

      • alden - May 5, 2012 6:56 am

        Thanks for dropping by Denise.

        Care to share what failures have you gone through recently?

  2. Mark - May 1, 2012 8:03 pm

    Since we were talking about this topic earlier, decided to leave a little something here too. The way I see it, everything in life is a gamble. Even a situation with the most favourable odds can go horribly wrong. It’s all about going at it again with the best of it; eventually you’ll come up on top. Cheers

    • alden - May 2, 2012 6:24 am

      Yeah for real.

      But the point is, most people treat failure as the end, when it shouldn’t be. In fact, it’s the best step you can ever take for yourself.

  3. From Shopping to Saving - May 2, 2012 8:39 pm

    I talk about this all the time on my blog. It’s up to each of us to pave the way for our goals and our life. When I couldn’t put in the time to study for the LSAT, I kept blaming everyone for distracting me…everyone for pressuring me.. it was always someone else’s fault but mine, and I knew it. The hardest part is realizing that it’s you who is standing in the way, but once you get through it and find your motivation, it’s easy to succeed if you put your full heart and effort into it.

    • alden - May 3, 2012 5:52 am

      Yes indeed. When you realize that and go all the way, you can definitely soar.

      If anything, don’t take failure as the end.

  4. Katie - May 2, 2012 11:21 pm

    Now that post was inspiring. You’re right you can’t be afraid to fail. When you bounce back after a failure you build character and know the things you need to improve upon to succeed the next go around.

    • alden - May 3, 2012 5:52 am

      Thanks Katie!

      Yes failure isn’t the end. It’s your next best step forward.

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  7. Gil - June 14, 2012 1:25 pm

    HI: Alden very helpful article. I have been experiencing this horrible feeling of failure. My Math class is driving me crazy that I really want to quit my school dream. I just find it, so hard to learn it. In fact, the only thing works for me, is to go very slow on it, but I feel if I do that, I would never graduate. Anyway, I don’t consider myself a quitter, because I always try more, even though I am still learning how to deal with horrible feeling when it comes to confront it.

    Thanks again!!

    • alden - June 15, 2012 2:55 am

      No prob Gil!

      Well my best advice for school is: It’s just a phase in life.

      I hated college. I didn’t learn much back then and I knew it was just a passing phase. And sure enough, it’s been a couple of years now and school doesn’t seem like a big thing, back then, and now.

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  12. 行動電源 - June 30, 2013 7:12 pm

    Just read and my mouth starts watering already! Certainly Will make it. =P


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