What “Not giving up” actually means

This is a typical motivational poster on not giving up. Guy in mountain who definitely went through a lot just to climb up.

This is a typical video that can motivate the hell of you. Good fucking background music, inspirational speech and awesome video overall.

“when all you want to do it be successful as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful” 

When you see shit like this, if like me you would be super inspired. When I watched the video I just wanted to hit the lab and start practicing my powermoves and dance my heart out.

Typical feelings of inspiration.

But let me tell you the real truth on such motivation and ideas of giving up

It feels like shit.

Not giving up means you actually felt like you wanted to give it all up. It means you hit ROCK BOTTOM. It means everyone around you doesn’t care for what you do and they just discourage the hell out of you, or rather, no one is there to readily give you that little push you need.

Don’t ever give up, sure, but it also means plowing through and powering through the difficulties in life. It means jumping over the obstacles that stand before you, and that’s not easy.

Watching others succeed inspire you. Reading about others’ success and stories can definitely motivate you. But they aren’t your stories. You still need to put in the hard work and energy to make it work for YOU.

That’s what “Not giving up” means. It means a hell of a lot of work. It ain’t all sunshine. Does it seem like there’s a goddamn problem with inspiration? Sure seems like it.

So why bother?

Because it’s the minority feel who have the courage, strength, determination and passion to really achieve their goals in life.

It is those who know the meaning of hardship to get what they really want. To truly become who they want to be and not just settle for comfort.

If you bother to fight for what you want, then you get to say you don’t and didn’t give up.

That’s what makes champions.

That’s what makes winners.

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  3. Vidya Sury - July 2, 2012 8:35 am

    I am really sorry you didn’t make it in the bboy competition. Shit happens. Waiting to hear your “winner” story next time. 🙂

    Loved your newsletter!

    You GO, Alden!

    • alden - July 2, 2012 9:33 am

      You rock for dropping by Vidya!

      Thanks so much!!

  4. David Harbour - July 2, 2012 2:01 pm


    The struggle makes the victory all the sweeter, you will get there, and when you do there you will find humility and gratitude. When anything is easy, when we get there with little challenge and effort, it means next to nothing. The harder it comes, the more value it wall have, that I can assure you. Stay in the game until your last breath.

    • alden - July 3, 2012 7:43 am

      For real David 🙂

      I know what you mean by the harder it comes, the more value it has. But well, sometimes it’s better to take a step back too.

  5. Dipak Amin - July 2, 2012 3:08 pm

    The key line in the video – ‘making a vow to yourself’ – and staying committed to that without making excuses as to why you couldn’t walk the talk…what you want will come to pass

    • alden - July 3, 2012 7:44 am

      For real 🙂

  6. Amy - July 2, 2012 7:33 pm

    Hi Alden,
    Thanks for sharing! I also want to note that while “not giving up” is an excellent motto, sometimes it’s a fine line of knowing when to “give up” on what’s not working and begin re-defining our goals. What we want for ourselves is constantly evolving and there’s an inner wisdom necessary to re-assess where we’re at, re-work our goals, break them down into baby steps and take inspired action to meet the goals. Evaluating the “losses” and seeing the learning opps that come from them is vital.

    Keep on keepin’ on! Amy

    • alden - July 3, 2012 7:45 am


      I wrote about that too. Sometimes it’s good to take a step back!


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