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It’s way too fucking easy to be a loser

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Because it doesn’t require any effort. It doesn’t take any brains either.

All you have to do is sit on your lazy ass and do nothing. Don’t even get up. Just lay down.

You don’t really need to think about anything either, although you may be stuck in between feelings of bittersweet procrastination and boredom.

Of course, you probably want to validate yourself and your choice of being a loser. And that’s easy too. You just have to keep making up excuses and get the reassuring nod from friends who are way too agreeable for your own good.

It’s 100% not giving a shit about yourself.

You know what else is too fucking easy?

Being a busybody. Just gossip your ass off so that you can elevate yourself as you ignore impartiality and using balanced judgement. It’s harder to not be so shallow and be serious about things.

Being an online troll. You’re protected by the monitor and anonymity the internet supposedly brings. It’s harder to be vulnerable online and expose your flaws, opinions and life.

Being a violent moron. You just have to get angry and stop thinking. It’s harder to walk away.

Being a cheater. You just have to justify your infidelity with weak excuses. It’s harder to face the monster in the mirror.

Being a critic. You just need to find fault in everything. It’s harder to be the creator.

Being an annoying drunk. You only have to drink and take it for granted your friends will take care of you. It’s harder to drink responsibly or go the fuck home.

Being a whiny little bitch. You just have to think the world revolves around you and think that you’re have the right to complain about every damn thing. It’s harder to just man up deal with it.

Being an asshole. Don’t ever apologize. Be mean to the waiter. Don’t help anybody. It’s harder to be respectful.

Being a… oh whatever. I can go on and on.

Easy is bullshit

We live in an age where you get anything you want easily. So many things are accessible. Just take out your phone. Google it. Tap the app. Call somebody. Whatever.

It’s no wonder so many of us are becoming spoiled little brats.

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How ironic, yet awesome that Satan from South Park explains it the best.

Rocket science or whatever, again, I say it’s making us all spoiled.

We don’t want to walk. We want to use Uber.

We don’t want to try it out on our own first. We rather seek help and access tutorials.

We fear pain. We want it all done for us. We don’t want to put in the hard work…

And that is why eventually, when the going gets tough, we don’t know what the fuck to do… except look for the easy way out.

Think about this: Have you ever thought that the hard work, pain, suffering, obstacle and long-term effort ARE the goals? That the difficulty you’re feeling is, without doubt sheer indication that you’re heading in the right direction?

Have you wondered, just for once, what would happen if you chose the hard way out?

Is this who you really want to be?

Go back a couple of sections. Read again how easy it is to become what you probably don’t want to be.

Easy is for the one-of-a-kind. Easy makes it too easy for you to fall in the trap and start fucking it up for yourself and others.

What is it you want exactly?

Think hard. This may sound like an easy question, but let’s add in the difficulty instead. So think hard.

You know it’s going to be hard, but don’t push aside the fear and anxiety. Don’t just say, “I know it’s going to be hard.”

You don’t. You don’t know hard until you experience hard. You don’t know shit until you feel the anxiety, fear, discomfort and sadness hard brings.

But.

Losers run away from those scary things. Then they look for answers that they hope would make things easy again.

The rest of you, on the other hand, are not winners yet.

They’re just putting in the everyday work, which is the only way to go.

So do yourself a favor and start doing it yourself-

For whatever invention there has been in life, somebody thought of it first. Somebody did it first. All without help. If that someone can do things without having his hand held, you can too. So try to figure shit out on your own why don’t ya?

Embrace the fear, pain and anxiety everyday-

Every, single, day. Don’t cower from them. Don’t cry. Don’t whine. Don’t act safe and say you’re “risk-adverse” when deep down you know you’re just scared.

These are signs you’re in the right direction.

If you aren’t scared at all or at the very least feeling a little uneasy, then you’re too safe. If you’re too safe, then you’re like the rest of the world.

If you’re like the rest of the world, you can’t stand out.

And that’s no way to be remarkable.

Let the future be dark-

Expectations and guarantees be damned. Nobody is a psychic or a mind reader. Whoever says they are are liars.

One grand aspect of going at it hard is to do it without knowing what the future holds for you. So keep experimenting, even if it kind of doesn’t make sense to you. Don’t stop though. Don’t wait for breakthroughs, to be picked or hope to be discovered. Fuck all of that.

It’s about the everyday work.

This is life.

Easy can never give you what you truly want in life. Go hard or go home. Bitch.

The article you just read is the result of three years of lollygagging, excuses and a wake-up call. In those three years I looked only for shortcuts and ways to make easy money. 99% of the time, they resulted in nothing. After getting fed up, I started writing about things I was uncomfortable on, like this, thisthis, this, and this. And I’ve stopped naively waiting for my big breakthrough or whatever. 

Winner yet? Maybe yes, maybe no.

Happy and more passionate? Yes. Defo.

Okay. Stop reading. All of you go get shit done. Share this please. People need to read this stuff. And sign up below if you want more goodness from me. Good shit awaits you. 

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9 comments

  1. kim - November 17, 2014 12:28 pm

    You are right brother. I like it straight and you give it. Or sometimes I just need it straight. Thanks!
    Keep on keepin on.

    Reply
    • alden - November 18, 2014 8:27 am

      We all do. Too much shit out there.

      Reply
  2. Lizzay Canters - November 17, 2014 11:51 pm

    I realised I was a being loser earlier this year. I made the best decision of my life to stop being a fucking loser and start taking responsibility for myself. This blog post describes it perfectly, thanks Alden.

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    • alden - November 18, 2014 8:27 am

      And that’d mean you stop being the victim too. Great on ya.

      Reply
  3. NAVIN - November 18, 2014 7:36 am

    Good article bro.

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    • alden - November 18, 2014 8:27 am

      Thanks

      Reply
  4. Ivan - November 20, 2014 4:02 am

    Hey Alden, I stumbled across your blog a week ago and I like your straight writing about life.

    Another thing to add here.

    People who indulge and over indulge in media and technology are also taking easy dopamine shots. I see it all the time all around. The thing about touchscreens is that it’s very seductive, in a way that everything is so smooth and intuitive that it streamlines the neurons in your brain to such an extent that if shit hits the fan, the cognitive dissonance can heighten so much in some people that they just thrash around and rage quit on the tiniest and inconsequential things.

    On media, you can either easily fill your brains with shit messages from mass produced shit uninspiring TV, music and movies, by just sitting and looking and listening it. Then maybe when you take a break to recollect your thoughts, then hey, another lame episode, movie, another shit single appears, then you plug back your mush brain back into the matrix.

    Or take the hard, not so easy way out. Actually sit in silence alone by yourself and let your thoughts about everything rage inside you and make you feel just slightly discomforting. Then attempt to sift through the bullshit, piece things together, and figure out what kind of life you truly want for yourself, and go do it. I make a conscious effort to choose the latter.

    Please keep writing, thank you!

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    • alden - November 20, 2014 7:32 am

      Good point. Dopamine shots. I like that.

      I like how you said let it rage inside of you.

      The way I see it, don’t filter reality. Just accept that life has ups and downs. And that is that.

      Reply
  5. z. lukovski - February 18, 2015 9:19 am

    The title says it all! It’s way too fucking easy to be a loser…it’s way too fucking easy to be the negative guy or gal, just gossip, complain, whine and go along with the wind. I guess it has to do with our culture and surrounding, with our paradigm and conditioned beliefs that we imprint upon our subconscious Mind throughout our lives.

    I know one thing… I may fail a thousands times more, but that will never make me a loser… losing happens in our mindset, not in our failings.

    Thanks for this great article Alden!

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