Aight aight! Here’s the all-new feature, HATE OF THE WEEK.
This is where you’d be treated to the haters I get all the time. I’d expose to you the immaturity and ignorance they have towards me and my blog. With that, the mystery of why they’re still on my list remains a mystery.
So let’s proceed with this week’s HATE OF THE WEEK!
I had a very interesting email from a reader last night.
So I ALWAYS get emails from readers asking me why I’m so vulgar. Why I’m so profane. Why I use expletives.
But last night’s one takes the cake.
It went like this, “your languge shows up the vulgarity that is you…nothing good can come from u”.
(Email was not edited for authenticity’s sake)
I laughed out loud reading this, not because of the bad language, but how ridiculous it is.
That’s right man, NOTHING GOOD can come from me! Watch out! I’m a monster!
Haha. Okay. No more jokes. I didn’t write this post to turn it into a gossipy, bitchy one.
Let’s get serious.
Yes, I’m vulgar. I make use of profanities and expletives. Why am I like that?
It’s simply daring to be yourself.
Cliché eh? But the key idea here is that being yourself may take a lot of time and you’dalways go full circle in life to be yourself.
What do I mean? Take my blog for example:
I started the blog being really vulgar (way more than now). I toned it down because some coaches taught me I’d not be able to appeal to many people. So I toned it down… and guess what happened?
I didn’t feel good at all. I felt like I wasn’t being myself. And good friends of mine said I “sold out”. It really hurt me.
And if you try to appeal to everybody, you appeal to nobody. Trust me on this. In blogging, if you want to cultivate an audience, you got to laser focus your message for the group of people you only want.
Same with life, you got to make the active choice of being with people you want, people you care for and know will benefit you.
You do that by being yourself! Otherwise what are you? You become fake, compromising, patronizing, “weird”, a suck up etc.
People can see through that. And it’s not going to make you feel comfortable at all.
So what are the lessons here?
1) Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken. If you aren’t yourself, you will go full circle anyway and go back to being yourself. And hopefully, you don’t make any regrettable mistakes along the way.
2) Don’t judge. Vulgar people can be nice people. Are you going to say that nothing good can come from people with tattoos because they look “vulgar”? Or people who prefer vulgar yet meaningful rap music?
3) It’s honestly better to be vulgar with good language, than not vulgar at all with bad grammar, typos and just not making sense. That said, worse things can be said even without vulgarity. Imagine how bad you sound like when you say stuff like how you hate black people even without the use of profanities.
Be yourself. You’re special. If you don’t feel special, then know that your true self within is just waiting to come out.
Want to know how to be yourself more? Get my book.
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