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2017

Dec 04      Are You A Self-Help Blowhard? Take This Quiz!

Nov 27      You Work Really Hard And You’re Still Not Rich Or Famous. So The Fuck What? (21 Cool Reasons)

Nov 21      Life Wasn’t Made To Be Fair, So Don’t Bother Playing Fair

Nov 19      A Totally Non-Influencer Style Article On My Trip To Bali

Nov 09      Age: Not Just A Number Mind You

Nov 08      You Need To Dig Really Fucking Deep Because Saying You Love It Isn’t Enough

Nov 06      Why ‘Living’ Is Simply The Only Answer You Need In Your Life To All Your Problems

Nov 03      The 9 Different Ways Your Real Friends And Your Enablers Will Treat You

Oct 30      Trust Me, No Matter How Many Times You Play It Out In Your Head, It Will Never Be Perfect

Oct 27      How To Let The Entire World Know That You’re And Insecure And Unhappy Person In 9 Easy Steps

Oct 26      Here’s To You, The Loser Who Feels Bad All The Time Edit

Oct 23      Fucking Love Yourself, Bitch

Oct 20      Have some faith in yourself for fuck’s sake

Oct 19      Why you should give a fuck though we’re all going to die

Oct 17      I choose to see the love in it and maybe you should too

Oct 12      12 deep observations of life I made from 32 years of my life

Oct 10      My honest and ass-kicking post on how to start healing from depression or other mental illnesses

Oct 09      It’s not going to make any fucking sense and that’s how you become better

Aug 04      Maybe it’s time to change Self-help into Please-Help-Me?

Aug 02      Controversial advice: Be selfish and give a shit about yourself

Jul 31      Why the selfie girl disgusts me the most

Jul 25      I love being a writer so much that I got a pen tattooed on me

Jul 17      The paradox of not giving a shit anymore

Jul 03      Musings: I’d rather go for a wake than a wedding

Jun 20      Never take advice from people who were lucky

Jun 16      There should be a limit to “no excuses”

Jun 14      Toxicity is but a subtle thief

Jun 07      Look man, luck is real and does play a big role in life

Jun 05      Somewhere out there is somebody who thinks Harry Potter is a piece of shit, and that is that

Jun 01      Work hard. Work Smart. Work with feelings

May 29      The Irony Of People Who Love To “Hustle”

May 22      Why can’t we acknowledge that there’s all kinds of suffering?

May 17      “He/she is like that” is not a legitimate reason

May 15      The new age of infidelity

May 11      No, I don’t love life

May 09      How to get over your first breakup [Short story]

May 08      “If it’s so easy, then the entire world would be doing the same” EXTENDED EDITION

May 04      Convenient answers

May 03      The problem with “actually” being a nice person

May 02      Stop using emoticons to flirt with girls

Apr 24      Cliched advice will never work for people who are still trying

Apr 21      Social media is turning us into sneaky ass bastards

Apr 20      If it’s something important to you, then it ain’t shallow

Apr 18      It’s like suddenly, you realize you get to be okay

Mar 27      The racist customer

Mar 06      How to know if you truly love him or her

Feb 20      Level up like a hero in this life

Feb 13      When smartphones stop being smart

Feb 08      The self-help space is the most ironic space

Feb 06      You never know how it is that they go to bed

Feb 02      Friends do have the right to fight over a guy or a girl

Jan 31      At The End Of Your Day, THIS Is The Only Fucking Thing That Matters

Jan 18      Being an introvert is not an excuse though

Jan 17      The most sensible horror story ever

Jan 03      Types

Jan 01      That’s Okay

2016

Nov 19      There is a huge difference between love and obsession

Nov 14      Date someone from far away once in your life

Nov 10      I want my relationships to be perfect and without any bullshit standards. Is that wrong?

Nov 01      How is it some people become super successful and rich from doing what they love and feel like it’s not work at all?!

Oct 24      Interview With Bboy Thesis: On Depression, Dance, Life And Battling Them On All Grounds

Oct 18      I am an angry dude who has never gotten into a fight before, so I went to Thailand to learn some Muay Thai

Oct 17      Yo, stop being a fucking cliche and stop living your stereotype

Oct 13      Maybe it’s in our collective consciousness that’s allowing bad things to happen in this world

Sep 30      6 things I learnt from seeing a therapist

Sep 26      What it is like to lose a loved one you grew up with

Sep 09      Smooth and flow

Sep 06      Untold secrets of living life to the fullest

Sep 02      My bitch face

Aug 30      SAYING YOU’RE TIRED IS TOO CHEAP AN EXCUSE

Aug 25      Check their damn qualifications first

Aug 05      The artist is not the scientist

Aug 02      Everyone is already judging you, the fuck you talking about?

Jul 29      At first you don’t succeed, laugh, laugh again

Jul 25      Just fuck it

Jul 21      The approval of others really don’t matter

Jul 18      Give a fuck about something

Jul 11      20 things that are so easy that they’re ultimate useless to you

Jun 13      We all do care about what others think

May 25      The no.1 thing to consider when choosing a life partner

May 20      7 Pieces of advice they will never teach you in college

May 16      Nobody Gives A Flying Fuck About You

May 11      7 of the quickest ways to get people to trust you

Apr 29      How to tell somebody you love that they’re getting fat

Apr 20      Hanging out with a homeless guy in Sydney

Apr 18      How To Deal With Depression, Anxiety And Low Self-Esteem

Apr 15      Stupid shit I stopped doing after I turned 30

Apr 13      The Epic And Awesome Guide To Writing Blog Articles Like A True Artist That People Want To Read And Share!

Apr 10      Keanu Reeves says, “People you cannot hide from your poison.”

Apr 09      Read this if you’re in your twenties and really lazy as hell

Apr 05      Karma is bullshit

Apr 02      100 Ways To Fuck Up Your Entire Life

Mar 31      Why We Feel Bad

Mar 29      How to radically change your life today

Mar 27      Don’t Live Everyday Like It’s Your Last. Live Like This Instead

Mar 25      10 Ways To Be Really Ugly And Unattractive

Mar 23      7 Pieces of Business Advice From Successful People That Are Actually Worthless

Mar 22      It Doesn’t Take A Genius To Be An Adult

Mar 21      The 5 Most Important Lessons For a Man To Learn In Life

Mar 18      Why it’s okay to be average and mediocre

Mar 15      Are looks that important in life? How to get over the idea that you think you’re ugly

Mar 10      Give Yourself Some Fucking Love Today

Mar 08      I’ve Anger Issues And This Is Why I Choose To Remain Angry

Mar 04      The 6 stages all introverts go through as they grow up

Mar 01      Boy Story

Feb 27      How to get a girl to like you

Feb 24      20 celebrities encouraging the hell out of you so you can be happy and motivated

Feb 22      Be disgusted with yourself, until you’re not disgusted

Feb 21      Real Talk 28: Should you quit your boring job to do what you love?

Feb 17      How to finally understand women

Feb 15      Real Talk 27: Read this if you feel like a failure who hasn’t done shit in life

Feb 14      Real Talk 26: There is no perfect environment

Feb 11      Real Talk 25: This is what bullies feel like all the time

Feb 09      Real Talk 24: Why “be yourself” is crap advice

Feb 08      Real Talk 23: Sometimes you work and feel the pain for meaning

Feb 07      Real Talk 22: Happiness is a tall, pint of cold beer

Feb 04      Real Talk 21: The reality of online marketing and how you can stop being scammed

Feb 03      The Gods who created the world

Feb 02      Real Talk 20: 7 ways to stop being a little bitch so you can actually get the girl

Feb 01      Real Talk 19: If you live by this, you deserve to die

Jan 29      Real Talk 18: The things we do when we’re alone

      Real Talk 17: How to be the asshole who has a heart of gold

Jan 27      How to overcome procrastination

Jan 26      Real Talk 16: What I learnt from a really cheesy movie with a dumb title

Jan 22      Real Talk 15: Letter to the kid who eats alone

Jan 19      Real Talk 14: Love just isn’t enough

Jan 18      Real Talk 13: What it’s like to witness death

Jan 17      Real Talk 12: You’re a big fat loser if you’re the nice guy who finishes last

Jan 15      Real Talk 11: Don’t lead a headline life

Jan 13      Real Talk 10: Let’s stop filtering reality to really live

Jan 12      Real Talk 9: Nobody really knows what they’re doing

Jan 11      Real Talk 8: 20 things to remember on your first date

Jan 08      Real Talk 8: Excuses are not reasons

Jan 07      Real Talk 7: How to trick people into thinking you’re really sophisticated

Jan 06      Real Talk 6: Looks fucking matter

Jan 05      Real Talk 5: The secret to life in 3 fucking easy points

Jan 04      Real Talk 4: Your thoughts are your reality

Jan 03      Real Talk 3: Don’t dwell on shit

Jan 02      Real Talk 2: It gets fucking better

Jan 01      Real Talk 1: Stop being a little bitch

2015

Dec 31      A look back at 2015 where I did everything I wanted

Nov 25      First you fall, then you fly

Nov 24      You’re not supposed to make romance hard

Nov 23      Be the fuck alone

Nov 13      Camaraderie

Nov 10      Why I write today and the power of books and stories

Nov 06      The Art of Practice

Nov 05      How getting my first tattoo liberated me

Nov 03      Your life is not a joke

Nov 02      This is how easy it is for you to be ugly

Oct 30      The tale of the wise man who didn’t give a fuck

Oct 29      5 Secrets To Letting Go Of Anger

Oct 28      You were not born an angry baby

Oct 27      Fuck your dreams: The work is the goal

Oct 23      3 simple rules for you to lead a meaningful life

Oct 22      How to keep making mistakes in your life (without realizing that you are)

Oct 21      Revive Your Life is back! Free book!

Oct 20      A god is nothing to a non-believer

Oct 19      Shit doesn’t fall onto your lap. Opportunities must be grabbed

Oct 17      Believe in yourself so much that people think you’re nuts

Oct 16      Learn how to end your day right

Oct 14      24 ways to not take life too seriously so you can be happy

Oct 13      One easy and manly way to instantly make your day better: Talk to strangers

Oct 12      This article is for all the whiny guys out there

Oct 10      When did it become okay to lower our standards and settle for b.s.?

Oct 09      Be all style and all substance

Oct 08      The true definition of beauty and ugly

Oct 07      What I tell people when they experience death of a loved one

Oct 06      Assholes do not apologize

Oct 05      Sorry is an F word

Oct 01      The real meaning of true love

Sep 27      15 bullshit lies we tell ourselves to avoid whatever

Sep 23      You know this shit

Sep 22      It’s never logical

Sep 15      Finally! A proper guide to completely getting out of your comfort zone

Sep 06      8 reasons why I don’t feel old after leaving my twenties

Aug 12      How to transform your life and turn it around by chilling out

Jul 29      The joyful roots of happiness

Jul 12      Unpopular opinion: Is it really so bad to have a clingy girlfriend?

Jul 07      Eventually you’d get there, and there, and there…

Jul 06      How to find and make real friends and love them all your life

Jul 02      What a pervert at a beach taught me about human behavior

Jun 30      100 unlikely tips for a meaningful and happy life

Jun 25      Tales of an honest douchebag

Jun 22      An honest essay: Lost in business, art and helping others

Jun 20      Lessons from having diarrhea this week

Jun 17      When you make a special friend for the first time for the rest of your life

Jun 15      When somebody calls you out on your anger

Jun 11      When I was really young a teacher punched me

Jun 10      9 things you learn when you get away from it all

May 07      The things we don’t thank people for enough

May 06      7 ways to stop feeling old as you grow older

May 04      You aren’t small, but your problems are small

Apr 30      Only bitches are late

Apr 29      Sometimes taking a break and fucking off is the answer

Apr 16      Being BUSY is absolute bullshit

Apr 14      Where did all the non-bullshit relationships go?

Apr 10      Maybe we all want the pain

Apr 08      Maybe you have already made it

Apr 02      An open letter to my 18-year-old self

Apr 01      8 life lessons from going through a bunch of breakups

Mar 31      Don’t say “Shit” when somebody dies

Mar 30      Don’t look around

Mar 27      Clear your fast food tray already

Mar 26      An open letter to guys who put down girls who wear too much makeup

Mar 25      7 self-help cliches you need to get real with

Mar 24      The importance of money and how to balance it out

Mar 13      3 life lessons from watching porn and Bangbros

Mar 11      What thinking I was going to die young taught me about life

Mar 10      7 of the biggest fucking losers I’ve met and what you can learn from them

Mar 09      Maybe you should stop being a dramatic bitch

Mar 08      Ask the terrifying but honest questions

Mar 04      Turn all your little experiences into HUGE dreams

Feb 24      5 secrets from being angry and getting over it

Feb 04      Announcement: Can you help Eliminate World Anger?

Jan 16      15 important lessons from being semi-successful

Jan 14      How to easily win respect and charisma: Just one trick

Jan 12      Car breaks down: Impromptu picnic by the road then!

Jan 11      Fuck Vision Boards

Jan 09      Maybe we’re all a little too spoiled

Jan 08      Think about your online hater for a second

2014

Dec 29      When your heroes aren’t real: How a fantasy book mage helped me during my nerdy days

Dec 18      The Cringe

Dec 17      7 things I learnt from quitting Facebook

Dec 10      You’re weird and that’s actually cool

Dec 08      A week of mourning: 6 life lessons from watching a love on go (beer included)

Nov 24      How the death of my dad turned me into an asshole

Nov 17      It’s way too fucking easy to be a loser

Nov 02      Evolving as Alden Tan

Nov 01      18 other important things besides love that make or break a relationship

Oct 28      I watched my friend punch a little dude once. Some realizations on toughness and anger

Oct 22      21 lessons from being in a long-distance relationship (which people thought wouldn’t work out)

Oct 21      Be yourself… unless you suck

Oct 17      Why assholes exist

Oct 13      I’m getting drunk to write something inspirational. And this is the result.

Oct 09      This is an ode to the unappreciated, the bullied, the judged and the misunderstood

Oct 07      7 things guys need to stop being proud of

Sep 19      This shouldn’t be inspirational: Lessons from going broke with $33 in the bank

Sep 16      Straight guy confession: Why I prefer to hang out with gay people sometimes

Sep 10      Why you need to avoid life coaches and their pretentious bullshit

Sep 08      Nearly 30 and still an angsty boy: Age… just a number?

Sep 02      A shift in aggression: What we need to do to stop young dudes from being so pissed off

Aug 28      17 grim lessons from three years of doing what you love

Aug 27      I did the ALS Ice Bucket challenge for my late dad

Aug 13      A tale of two dudes: 1 safe virgin, 1 sleazy fat ass

Aug 10      The monster in all of us: Why good people want other good people to die

Aug 07      A $1000 wake-up call

Aug 06      All the harsh secrets to life in one blog post

Aug 04      What to tell others when they say you can’t do what you love

Aug 01      16 signs of the Modern Coward

Jul 16      11 signs you’re hanging out with a fake friend

Jul 14      15 things to tell yourself to calm the angry monster in you

Jul 10      How to not take things personally

Jul 08      8 “Friendly” Pieces of Life Advice you should never take

Jun 27      You aren’t going to die from this

Jun 26      20 success secrets you ought to know by now

Jun 25      How to pick yourself up after “failure”

Jun 24      We all want to be that guy…

Jun 20      Why you shouldn’t just be a nice person

Jun 14      The truth about self-help (and generally taking in advice)

Jun 12      The Young Adult success guide during and after school

Jun 09      7 motivational bloggers who don’t give stupid advice

Jun 05      How to stop being so confused in this world

Jun 04      13 kinds of flowery bullshit people say to manipulate you

Jun 01      The “right” things in life don’t guarantee happiness

May 29      People are afraid of others’ success

May 28      3 years in the game: The 5 ways you evolve when you don’t give up

May 19      My uncensored truth on making money doing what you love

May 06      If you want different results, then do something different

Apr 30      The Life Check list: 12 Immature things that make you look like a bitch

Apr 29      the funny adventures of Alden Tan

Apr 25      The truth about assholes (A reader was harassing me)

Apr 24      Stop thinking everyone wins over you

Apr 22      Strange girls talking shit behind my back

Apr 20      This is the meaning of real beauty

Apr 17      20 regrets in life you really don’t want to have

Apr 16      I got a threat from a reader

Apr 15      My letter of assurance to you

Apr 14      What a little fat kid taught me about life

Apr 07      I was pretty damn stupid (and how I became valedictorian)

Apr 05      IF you accept unconditional love, then jolly well accept unconditional assholeness

Apr 03      This is a call out to the self-help world and all its bullshit practitioners

Apr 01      The 11 undeniable paths to be an average person

Mar 27      20 really stupid things to complain about

Mar 20      10 things to tell yourself when you feel super sad and depressed

Mar 17      We’re all full of shit

Mar 15      7 life lessons I learnt from meeting my girlfriend’s parents for the first time

Mar 04      20 ways you’re playing life wrong

Feb 26      31 things extremely confident people do differently. #10 is a no-brainer.

Feb 24      46 in-your-face quotes with pretty pictures to wake your ass up in life

Feb 20      How to be the manliest man in the universe (with or without a beard)

Feb 18      9 fucking good habits you can start now

Feb 17      17 things you need to stop saying to yourself

Feb 16      Ignorance is part of trust

Feb 08      Confidence is not predicting the future

Feb 06      A story of not taking shit from arrogant people

Jan 31      The 24-Hours No Excuses rule

Jan 23      Love your anger

Jan 15      One simple trick to drown out the haters

Jan 12      An ode to Introverts

Jan 10      Feel fucked up and do it anyway

Jan 08      26 totally useless things for your well-being

Jan 01      14 changes you should try to aim for in 2014

2013

Dec 30      A look back at 2013

Dec 26      13 quotes on positivity that need a makeover

Dec 24      Interview with Aaron Jackson: Exposer of The Truth

Dec 20      15 videos of soldiers’ homecoming that’d make your Xmas spirit explode

Dec 19      I’m sensitive and petty (and I love my being different)

Dec 16      20 things I wish I knew when I was 20

Dec 09      December #dontgiveafuck Challenge Day 1: How to not be bothered by the state of the world

Dec 06      Interview with God: The almighty on Facebook who actually saves lives

Dec 01      How to not give up

Nov 30      21 things to ask yourself to truly wake up in life

Nov 23      Interview with Colin Wright from Exile Lifestyle: Traveller, writer and all-rounded nice dude!

Nov 18      How to get out of your comfort zone by saying “Fuck it”

Nov 14      The Not Give a Fuck Q&A Debut! Ask me anything and I shall reply.

Nov 12      I went for therapy once you know…

Nov 07      20 cancer stories that would inspire faith and courage

Nov 04      Hate of the Week: Some chick thought I was scamming her

Oct 19      The ultimate guide to why meditation is the cure to your problems

Oct 10      The world is yours and nothing can stop you

Oct 08      How to spot a blessing in disguise and how to use it

Oct 04      39 kinds of hardcore advice 20-somethings need to know

Sep 27      Why am I so vulgar? Bigger question is: Why can’t you live your own fucking life your own fucking way?

Sep 24      Drop all your shit and let’s have a fucking beer

Sep 22      How to be fearless, brave and courageous in one awesome package (plus sad story of a friend)

Aug 16      Stop looking up to successful people feat. a ninja

Aug 14      How to stand up against bullies once and for all

Aug 08      You’ve the right to do whatever it is you want

Aug 04      Be fucking proud of who you’re with

Jul 02      How you should START getting off social media for a better life

Jun 18      Passion is truth

Jun 05      33 real things about meeting people (so you can start being sociable)

May 29      13 blunt truths to hopefully wake your ass up

May 24      How to judge people so you don’t make loser friends

May 17      Your thoughts are not you

May 16      5 transformational habits successful people somehow have

May 15      The #1 reason to why you’re allowed to be selfish

May 09      The complete guide to getting a life

Apr 22      7 things about yourself you need to get over to walk the path of awesome

Apr 18      Why being called a “natural” is complete bullshit

Apr 17      Getting real with passion and how to fully utilize it

Apr 16      Something always bigger in life

Apr 15      You need to go “all in” when finding the right people in life

Apr 11      10 South Park quotes teaching you how live life

Apr 03      The honest and real guide to using the Law of Attraction (and other stuff)

Mar 14      The art of taking the Leap of Faith

Mar 08      Interview with Mark Manson: He attracts women with honesty

Mar 05      5 lessons learnt from working in a club for 5 years

Feb 27      10 years of losing to finally win your first victory

Feb 24      An honest and real guide to getting over your fears

Feb 06      Let’s fuck self-help up

Feb 01      Potential and talent don’t mean jack

Jan 22      Interview with Corbett Barr: The value adder of Blogging

Jan 16      10 famous failures, 10 dreams fulfilled

Jan 07      It’s the little things

2012

Dec 11      Interview with Chris Guillebeu: The remarkable non-conformist

Dec 02      How to deal with a world filled with assholes

Oct 25      How to talk to people without feeling awkward

Oct 04      16 more pictures which scream NO EXCUSES

Aug 12      [Video] A move which took me 8 years to learn… and lose.

Jul 24      75 simple and straight forward answers to 75 problems in life

Jun 24      19 pictures which scream NO EXCUSES

Jun 05      An ultra-intense weekend of winning and losing

May 25      Never underestimate the power of a stupid joke

Apr 25      Your greatest foe is yourself. Your best ally is failure

Apr 16      Be ridiculously proud of your fucking amazing self

Mar 27      THIS BLOG HAS REACHED A MILESTONE: A letter to me and how it can help you

Mar 22      Interview with Joel Runyon, awesome man who overcomes the impossible

Mar 11      How to get the hell out of your comfort zone

Feb 05      100 things life is too short for

Jan 20      The average person wakes up in the morning…

Jan 12      Failure only comes when you stop trying

Jan 10      How to find your passion: The easiest way

Jan 05      Getting out of the Matrix life

2011

Dec 23      How to get over death of a loved one

Dec 15      What “Not giving up” actually means

Dec 12      50 reasons why being too cool for school might not be such a BAD thing for you

Dec 08      Everybody has a story to tell and how to tell yours

Dec 05      How to be liked by people: the quick guide

Dec 01      Learn from a legend: What Bruce Lee can teach you about life

Nov 11      5 things that will happen to you when you grow up

Nov 07      50 things you can tell yourself to not care about what others think of you

Oct 03      The problem with inspiration

Sep 29      How to be positve #1: Surrounding yourself with positive people

Aug 30      My guide to not giving a fuck