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The Not Give a Fuck Q&A Debut! Ask me anything and I shall reply.

Q&A

Yo yo guys,

This is a new feature that’s adding to the awesomeness of this blog!

Basically, I emailed my readers to ask me anything, and then I’d publish it.

It’s a straight up Q&A. You ask. I answer. Simple as that.

I like replying you guys via email, but I figured this can benefit everyone.

No bullshit! Let’s get the fuck to it.

Zandile’s Q: How do you get rid of debt in the shortest possible time? 

A: You just have to keep working man. Nothing comes easy. Please don’t be tempted to gamble or some other stupid shit. That’s foolish. Don’t worry about having debt. Keep paying that off. Be happy in the mean time.

Darrell Linn’s Q: You keep talking about blog. How do I find it?

A: LOL! It’s www.alden-tan.com. Sorry.

Billy’s Q: How can I overcome the thought of being stuck? I feel like I’m in the middle of nowhere.

A: You just gotta do something man. Just start anywhere. I suggest you start with passion. Go find it. When you got it, everything will be clear and the world will make sense.

 Swait’s Q: Hey Alden, you’re doing a great job. I’m a dentist and I’m not too interested in the field. I don’t want want to waste this life doing what everybody else is asking me to do. I can’t figure out what I’m meant to do. What is it?

A: The direct answer is passion. Find it. Ask yourself, what are you good at? What interests you? List all of them down. And then go try out all sorts of shit. Something will click for sure and you’ll be happy. That’s your answer.

Anonymous: There’s this guy I considered as a good friend, but this one time I wanted moral support, he wasn’t around. He only wants to have fun. Now I’m ignoring him, and he’s asking why I’m ignoring him. I don’t know how to break the news to him. Any tips?

A: Do you still care about him? If not, fuck it. Cut him loose. You don’t need such a friend. If you still care, then talk it out with him peacefully. Bottom line: Don’t hold back on your emotions. Don’t be unhappy cause of others taking you for granted.

Jeff Tse’s Q: Do you have advice for someone who is short on time, has a ton of responsibilities and wants to take another career path?

A: You just gonna have to grind it through with your responsibilities and set a little time aside each day to chase your dream. It sucks, but there’s no other way.

Bereket’s Q: I do not have a girlfriend. I approached one and we’ve been dating. How can I tell her I like her?

A: Just frigging tell her man. Don’t be afraid of rejection. Sometimes, the girl is waiting. No holding back.

Beto’s Q: Hi Alden, I get bored of the girls I date with pretty fast. At the same time I want to be in a serious relationship and eventually get married and have kids. Yet, I fear losing my freedom. Do you see a solution for this?

A: Just continue being single. The key idea is not to find love. Let love find you. That’s how it fucking works, but everybody got it backwards. It’s cliché, but when the time comes, you will know it. You will know she’s the one you’d want to marry and settle down when you feel it.Then you will automatically not think about losing your freedom.

Dan’s Q: If you knew you were going to die in a year, would you be doing what you are doing?

A: Yes I would! I’d still be writing and Bboying like a monster! But since I only got a year, I’d gather more balls and do a bunch of awesomer shit, like travelling.

Oscar’s Q: How do you avoid negative thinking?

A: Quiet your mind. Practice mindful meditation. Do some kundalini yoga. You can search all of them on YouTube.

Wendy’s Q: My ex-husband, who mistreated me and son is putting on a show and turning my son against me. They’re planning to move out of the states. I worry for my son and the heartbreak I’ve to endure. I’m struggling to let it go.

A: Sorry you have to go through that. I can only say, show your son you love him. I guess right after that, it’s all up to him. Hopefully he’ll be back since your ex-husband sounds like a loser.

Joseph’s Q: I’ve a problem with procrastination. It’s hard for me to get in shape. How can I overcome this?

A: Focus on the feeling you can get after getting some shit done. I always say the feeling, not the results. This feeling is what you should live for. It’s what makes life more meaningful and awesome. Now get off your ass and just get shit done. It’ll be all good.

Anonymous: I suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder/Social Anxiety. This means I’ve a hard time in social situations and at the same time, feel like I can’t be independent. Is there anything short of therapy that can help me?

Q: Hmm how about you start small? For a start, just get out of the house. You don’t have to be with friends or even talk to a bunch of strangers. Just get out of the house and recognize the awesome progress of that. As long as you’re out of the house, you win. Be aware of what’s going on outside. Observe the people. Be one with nature and shit. It will ease the burden.

Also, please know that I’m not a certified therapist, or even a life coach. But maybe this post on therapy I wrote will help you. Anything else, please seek professional help if need be.

Bhavika’s Q: When is your booking coming out?

A: I’m aiming for Xmas 2013.

Alright, that’s all we have for today. Question? Hit me up right here. 

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2 comments

  1. Frank T - November 14, 2013 3:03 pm

    Alden! This is great stuff. The question and answer format is in the spirit of ‘Dear Abbey’ and Ann Landers without the old lady spin, lavender potpourri and doilies. I think your answers are spot on. Some comments:

    I think the awesome e-book “Street Smart Social” may help out Bereket and anonymous – you never know!

    Jeff Tse’s Q: I’ve discovered that time is not something you have, it’s something you make. If something is important enough you make the time to do it. Once you switch your mindset to seizing control and making time rather than just having it you’ll be amazed at the results.

    Wendy’s Q: What Alden said is true. Staying consistent, genuine and loving in your approach is the best thing you can do. Kids, especially teens, seek the truth in everything. Your son loves you deep down inside and knows you love him, too. When he compares your approach to your ex’s your son may be able to sense the bullshit coming from him. A friend of mine had a similiar situation and it worked out for him. And if it doesn’t, at least your conscience is clear in that you know in your heart you did the best you could.

    You’ve got a gift, Alden, thanks to you and to all for sharing!

    Reply
    • alden - November 14, 2013 4:24 pm

      Thanks Frank!

      And thank you for sharing your own insights with my readers. You rock man.

      Reply

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