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an ode to introverts

An ode to Introverts

I thought it was about time I wrote a little piece on introverts. I am one. That’s for sure. I’ve been seeing a trend in the rise of content across the web for introverts, in the form of articles, infographics, comics and stuff. And I too feel that it’s heavily needed because there’s a strong misunderstanding of what we are all about.

It’s not that we make it our life purpose to want to always be alone. The truth is we simply know we grow and evolve best when we’re by our lonesome.

It’s not that we’re feeling sad, depressed or “emo”. We just feel like having some alone time, no matter how we feel.

It’s not that we’re rude or unfriendly. We just feel a little spent and we don’t really have the energy to talk or get to know you better.

Oh, we’re definitely not shy. That’s just judgemental. That’s also too convenient.

It’s not that we’re “always” like this. You just caught us at a wrong time.

It’s not that we’re dismissive. It’s that most people don’t understand the intimate idea of being an introvert, and it gets very tiring after having to explain it so many times.

It’s not that we’re very territorial. We just need our own space.

It’s not that we’re trying to be rude, but it’s extremely disruptive when people invade our private space.

It’s not that we’re boring. We just think it’s okay to stay in on weekends, read a book and avoid the bars and parties.

It’s not that we’re antisocial. It’s not that we don’t fit in. We just think it’s perfectly fine to be at a gathering, and still want to be alone. We like to observe.

It’s not that we’re hard to reach, or uncooperative. We just want to drop the phone, social media or other communication means for a bit.

It’s not that we’re “artsy fartsy”, “hipster” or whatever. We just so happen to like expressing our thoughts out into written, readable form.

It’s not that we don’t have many friends. We just like the having the few, close ones we already have. We hope to keep it that way.

It boggles our mind that the rest of the world don’t see the obvious fact that most successful, inspirational people are also introverts, despite their fame and fortune.

Eye contact isn’t our favourite thing. 

We do get lonely too.

It’s annoying when the rest of the world don’t get it.

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17 comments

  1. Jane - January 12, 2014 8:43 pm

    Alden,

    You could have written this piece about me. Extroverts to me do not understand as they are competing for the limelight.

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    • alden - January 13, 2014 9:10 am

      Haha they sure are.

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    • Isabel Olivier - August 31, 2016 7:16 am

      I’ts so true, thanks for be so honest Alden. We don’t have to explain anymore, already so amazing to think about this idea.

      Reply
  2. gerda - January 12, 2014 8:54 pm

    Wow, Alden, this is genius written. If somebody gives me critics again, i’ll let them read this, than i don’t have to explain anymore. It will save a lot off time. Thanks man!!! grtz gerda

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    • alden - January 13, 2014 9:10 am

      Thanks for dropping by Gerda!

      Reply
  3. Justin Harmon - January 12, 2014 9:26 pm

    Heard that. Well said man.

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    • alden - January 13, 2014 9:10 am

      Thanks man.

      Reply
  4. Mary Ann Chonge - January 13, 2014 2:20 am

    Well Said!!! TELL IT!!!!!!!!!

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    • alden - January 13, 2014 9:10 am

      For reals!

      Reply
  5. Frank T - January 13, 2014 6:02 am

    Amen to that, Alden. People don’t understand that being introverted has nothing to do with being shy, quiet or whatever. It has everything to do with how we process information. We take in information and process it before speaking. Whereas extroverts, as my wife says, ” use the air as their whiteboard”. Neither is smarter or better than the other.

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    • alden - January 13, 2014 9:08 am

      Haha use the air as their whiteboard. Nicely said.

      Reply
  6. Gunn - January 13, 2014 7:36 am

    Great stuff. Full of rare insights and superb sensitivity. So true… we introverts just work the room differently–not with loud voices and quick opinions, but with careful observation and tweaked senses… we scan constantly. Always filtering out nonsense and the meaningless, but highly tuned to the relevant. This engages the brain more fully. That’s why introverts recharge their personal batteries in the “lone wolf” mode and drain them in the social osmosis position.

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    • alden - January 13, 2014 9:08 am

      Nicely said.

      Plus… we do it in a non-arrogant way too. Whoever judges is their problem. Not ours.

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  7. Wan Muhammad Zulfikri - January 14, 2014 8:51 am

    Such accuracy.

    We live in a world that sees extroversion as normal while introversion as abnormal.

    It’s nice to see that nowadays more and more introverts are being judged as equally normal to extroverts.

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    • alden - January 14, 2014 8:14 pm

      For real dawg. Thanks for commenting.

      Reply
  8. Sebastian - January 19, 2014 4:19 pm

    I’m the biggest introvert ever. I stay in on the weekends and read book. But if you see around the corner, you will also see me speeding on my motorcycle without a shirt completely out of my mind.

    Being an introvert has nothing to do with being insecure or shy or anything. It’s an energy thing. People drain me. They bore me.

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    • alden - January 21, 2014 7:30 am

      LOL that’s awesome. If you see me at my spot, I’m topless and bboying.

      Reply

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