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Why being called a “natural” is complete bullshit

Do you remember when you were young, back in high school or whatever, you start making friends with new people you meet?

Everybody’s strange to each other and everybody’s warming up to each other.

And then there’s that one guy or girl in class, who can run really fast during physical education class.

Everyone’s like, “Wow, that kid can run”.

Then we ask that kid, “Hey where did you learn to run like that?”, and he or she’s like, “Oh nah I never had any kind of training. I’m just fast like that”.

So everyone’s gone bad shit crazy calling that kid a NATURAL.

Worshipping in some form ensues.

And I think that’s complete fucking bullshit.

In life you’re bound to meet a bunch of people who’re called “naturals”.

They’re smart, talented and seem to easily get what they want in life.

They’re naturally awesome in what they do.

It’s almost like they have to put in zero effort for the success they have in life. They don’t need formal training. They don’t need someone to teach them. They don’t need to constant motivation even.

Then the rest of us think we’re inferior.

The natural doesn’t exist

It doesn’t.

Nothing comes easy in life. You just need to dig deeper.

Fast-running kid who claims to have no training in running: He or she may not be in the track team growing up, but they may have spent a lot of time playing catch at the playground, or where ever. This counts for a lot!

Guy who seems to be good with various, new sports: His body may have been conditioned a lot as he goes to the gym.

Girl who gives inspiring speeches without feeling nervous: Brought up in an open family where everyone encourages each other to speak their minds.

See how that works? See where it always starts?

And then after being praised and receiving accolades of being naturally awesome at whatever, that person would of course continue being awesome in that environment! It’s only natural to feel happy and continue working at it. Hard work never stops, but it definitely feels a lot easier with a positive attitude.

See how a positive mindset, being surrounded by positive people and having an overall positive attitude can help so fucking much in life?

“Whoa, whoa! Alden! What about genes and shit? We were all born different you know.”

Matter of choice then.

As you grow up, you’re going to have your own natural affinities towards something (doesn’t matter what) and it’s up to you to recognize that early and keep going at it.

It’s up to you to choose to follow your heart and do what you want and go be awesome, or listen to others, yield to others’ expectations and follow the crowd, and then continue to struggle and suck at something you aren’t even sure you care for.

How to be naturally good at something:

This is the more accurate way to phrase it.

1) Follow your heart

If you like something or have an interest in something, go explore.

2) If you think you’re good at something

Keep doing it. Don’t stop.

3) Stop listening to others

Only real expectations in life are the ones you create for yourself.

Albert_Einstein_Head“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” – Albert Einstein

 

 

 

 

 

I say it’s also your responsibility to recognize whether you’re a fish, lion, tiger, eagle, baboon, dinosaur or whatever. Then it’s your choice to fly or not. No excuses.

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8 comments

  1. jasz - April 18, 2013 1:32 pm

    Awesome, I was just thinking about this too.

    I worry what others might think all the time and I get so paralised, I need constant reassurance that what I’m doing is ok for other people, otherwise I doubt myself so much. Though I will argue if they don’t agree because I believe I’m right I just ‘feel like I need their aproval, silly me.

    IT would be nice if I could feel more confident though, so I wouldn’t care about other people’s opinions. I know I want to make a positive difference in the world, I know I have other people’s best interest at heart.

    That’s really all I need to fuel myself with and start running, ….I gotta let that sink in and stop worrying.

    Good intentions, not that you need my aproval, though I know how nice it is to know that there are people on your side, right ? Keep going, I think you’re awesome !
    <3 peace out

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  2. Muthe - April 19, 2013 2:07 pm

    I’ve been thinking the same thing whenever any person said “It’s just natural for me,” or when someone said “He’s natural.”

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  3. Jack Hutchins - April 20, 2013 2:56 am

    Rasied in a family of naturals, i do not belive I allowed myself to be a “natural” at anything/ My Father was a hard worker who intimated me, and my step-mother told me I would never be good at anything. So over the years I’ve started and ended up quiting instead of sticking anything out. Jobs, relationships, friendships, and my self.
    Stop listening to others and do what I know is right for me.
    Thanks again, Right on spot with How I am feeling today.

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  4. Tomi - April 25, 2013 12:40 pm

    Contrary to a point you made above, I was the fastest runner in elementary
    School even up to high school. I was a gentle kid, wasn’t allowed to run
    about as such but when it came to track esp. sprints, I always took the lead.
    But I agree with you that one has to practise to keep it up just like I have to
    now. But innate ability does come out on its own sometimes , I tell you.

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    • alden - April 25, 2013 7:55 pm

      Well I would say your mentality was totally there. You went all out no?

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  5. jamie flexman - April 30, 2013 8:03 am

    Hey Alden – I’m 100% of the belief that everything in life is learned and a product of how much effort we put into it.

    There are a few things which are natural; for example, the ability to run the 100m in under 10 seconds is down to your genetic make up of fast and slow twitch muscle fibres, but even that is worthless without thousands of hours of track training and elite coaching.

    Everything from singing, playing the guitar, writing, speaking 10 languages etc etc is a product of an insane amount of practice. People don’t want to believe it because it means admitting that they are too lazy to put the work in.

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    • alden - May 3, 2013 8:27 am

      Thanks dude.

      Yeah man. I held myself back too long cause of this natural idea. I just decided to work hard AND smart. I just focus on what I’m good at.

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