Maybe happiness isn’t a choice

This seems to be psychobabble of late: Happiness is a choice.

Writers, bloggers, speakers, gurus, random inspirational guy on Instagram or whoever like to vomit this line all the time. I’d admit I was guilty of it before.

Is happiness really a choice?

It sounds like it is, but tell it to a depressed person, a starving kid in Africa, a homeless person or the cancer-stricken in the hospital.

Answers will definitely vary, which is expected since we’re all different.

Maybe happiness isn’t a choice then.

It’s a small gift. It’s a privilege. It’s a feeling. It’s an experience that comes and go randomly as it pleases.

Sounds frustrating? Maybe. Maybe not.

I think happiness can be choice, but sometimes it isn’t. Whatever the case, feeling anything less than happiness is absolutely okay.

It’s not the end of the world. There’s nothing wrong with you. Others, especially the pretentious ones are not better than you just because you’re a little unhappy today.

You can be other things then.

You can be interested in things.

You can be curious.

You can fuck up, and then learn.

You can make mistakes intentionally even, but you still can learn.

You can relax.

You can chill.

You can be nice, compassionate, kind and help others while feeling unhappy and honestly, no one would care.

You can be alive, and that’s most important.

Choice or not, just be something with your name on it.

I am sure you’ll get there one day.

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  1. Joel - March 9, 2017 2:31 pm

    “It sounds like it is, but tell it to a depressed person, a starving kid in Africa, a homeless person or the cancer-stricken in the hospital.”

    And therein lies the problem. People walk around professing exactly as you say…happiness is a choice. Happiness is a choice for those who turn a blind eye to the problems and issues that face our world. Not your world, our world. The Earth. The Planet. The entirety of everything.

    I believe that no one person is truly happy while parts of society and the world needlessly suffer. Whether you think about it or not, the world is one and when one of us suffers, we all suffer.

    There are so many things that we as a people can do to change any and all of this:

    Acceptance of criticism

    Openness to other perspectives

    Listening rather than speaking

    Not pretending that any one way is better than another way

    Education in the non-traditional sense

    A worldwide want to do more and not a need to do more

    The understanding that we are all in this together

    Yet, very few of us actually take the steps to do it.

    Until these and so much more are done, nobody will ever actually be 100% happy.

  2. Ewen Munro - March 23, 2017 8:14 am

    Good points, Alden. I believe, the problem lies in how we tell people to just “be happy”. How do you just “be happy”? Happiness is a result. To help those that are struggling, we can’t tell them to “be happy”. We should listen to them, what they’re going through and commit actions that’ll help them out of their predicament. Telling someone who is depressed to just “be happy” is lazy and sloppy. Good stuff, Alden! #keepgrowing #keepcreating 😉

  3. Jaimin Patel - April 9, 2017 7:14 am

    One Day Fearless Motivation will sit there…


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