I’ve been to courses, seminars, watched online video courses and scoured forums, all under the umbrella of personal development and becoming a better person in life.
And you know what annoys me?
It’s all the big and weird words are that used to portray the simple message of becoming a better person.
Let me illustrate:
I was at a course a couple of years ago. I asked a friend, who went for it before what she thought of it.
She replied, “My world shifted”.
Seriously? Your entire WORLD shifted?
I was rather taken aback.
It’s like, sometimes I just got to ask, “Is there a need to exaggerate and make a big deal out of growing and becoming a better person?”
Shifting of worlds isn’t just it. Want more?
Let’s see. I’m laying’em all out:
List of phrases and words I want to ban
Paradigm shift World-class
Enlightenment Positivity influx
Illuminated Universe alignment
Phase-shift Mind warp
Fusion Spaceship Earth (what?!)
Law of (whatever the fuck you want to call it and shit)
Oh man it just goes on and on! I’m so sick of it.
I want to say something about it. I want to fuck self-help up once and for all.
The problem with self-help
We’re getting too damn reliant on them. We forget how great we are on our own because we start believing the bullshit others say, which in turn ironically made it seem like we absolutely need to listen to others in order to become a better person.
We all have our problems. Problems suck. Challenges can be tiring. Obstacles can be a bitch sometimes. Hurdles, walls and other crap get in the way too much.
They are always here, no matter what. But why are we blowing up the solution as well?
Why are we exaggerating the shit out of positivity?
So then, people start to think there’s never a way out of their problems.
George Calin puts it PERFECTLY.
“Life is not that complicated. You get up, you go to work, eat three meals, you take one good shit and you go back to bed. What’s the fucking mystery?! And the part I really don’t understand, if you’re looking for self help, why would you read a book, written by somebody else?! That’s not self help, that’s help!
There’s no such a thing as self help…if you did it yourself, you didn’t need help. You did it yourself!”
You can absolutely fucking do it yourself just because!
Yes you can. Simple. Basic capability. It’s NOT that complicated
Think about this now.
Think about how easy it is to unlock that capability in you, without all the jargon and exaggerated garbage.
The whole idea is to realize how absolutely fantastic and brilliant you already are in this unfair world that’s out to throw shit at you.
Think about how, for whatever that has been invented or whatever new problem that became not a problem, that there was SOMEONE or a group of SOMEONEs who did it all on their own first without consulting any help. That means zero talks, seminars, mastermind groups or self-help books.
Then they were kind enough to teach you about it.
How to really help yourself
You level up.
You get up, and say you want to do something epic.
You STOP waiting for permission.
You never make apologies for yourself.
You stop whining and do something.
You move on.
You open your mouth and ask.
You stop believe bullshit from others that put you down.
You stop worrying.
You simply just keep trying.
You follow the fuck out of your dreams man.
You stop wishing, you do it.
You also take a break now and then and go have a beer.
You take action forever.
I can go on and on.
Stop exaggerating. Don’t be too analytical, life is not that complicated. Be inspired, but don’t compare yourself to others’ success.
With simplicity, you can do wonders by just choosing to move forward. You never have to think you aren’t like “those guys”, you know, the lucky chosen few on this planet who become celebrities or those who strike the lottery.
You just keep doing it.
You follow your individual, but considered weird to others passion and get laughed at, but you’re still following your passion.
You may have written up your first poem which makes zero sense, but you still expressed yourself.
You can start a blog with next to zero visitors, but now you have your platform.
You may look like an idiot; look stupid, and that’s totally okay.
Guess what? It’s even okay to seek help from others! But it’s not like you need to pay a ton of money or seek some world-class whatever guru to level up in life. Remember, inspiration is free and always will be.
You’re small in this huge ass universe, but not that small really.
Everyone is special, so are you.
And I’m just gonna leave it as that.