This is yet another excellent guest post from the boys at KingPin Lifestyle. Check out this deep look into the writer’s journey of approaching people. Now, all of us mostly think like going into courses of approaching people probably means guys approaching chicks so that they can score more dates, and that’s all to it. Nah man. Brian totally hits the nail on the head with this journey of self-discovery and how it has benefited him for life, without looking like a total douchebag.
First course for a 16 year old on approaching people and getting rejected?!
It’s been 4 years since my first self – development experience. At 16 years old I didn’t want anyone to know what I was on to. I felt like I had discovered a secret society. A bunch of men that were going out on a regular basis and approaching people. A concept that had been so far outside of my reality at the time that I would have never imagined myself doing the same thing within months.
I have no idea what turned me onto the idea of approaching women to be honest. I played football in High School and I was extremely good at it. I think I wanted to add another weapon to my belt. With the new skills that I was learning from the DVD sets that I purchased I felt unstoppable.
I’m 20 years old now and things are a lot different now than they were back then. One thing remains the same though. This journey never ends. It starts with meeting people for an external high than it dives deep inside of your soul on a journey to find out who you really are. Who am I today? I’m discovering that I’m not the man who I was at 16 years old, approaching women for the sake of validation. I’m so much more than that. I’m an infinite being with unlimited potential and possibility.
How Did Approaching People make me realize I am filled with potential?
Every time that I approach someone that I don’t know, I’m connecting with an external element of life that my mind has decided is a stranger. I’m including one more person in my reality. More importantly than making an external friend I’m conquering an internal comfort zone. Each internal comfort zone that I conquer I take one step closer to the man that I want to become. I realize how much is really possible when you remove the limiting beliefs that are placed on us from a young age.
Everything that you want in life is outside of your comfort zone, otherwise you would already have it. That’s why approaching people is so scary at first. These new friends that you want to make are friends that your mind has decided are strangers. “It’s impossible to walk up to that person and have them be your friend,” your mind tells you but as you consistently overcome the fear that resides inside of you you see the truth. The truth is that nothing is impossible. In fact, everything is possible. Everything is possible and all of the opportunity that you’ve ever wanted has been waiting in front of you the whole time.
You’re just too caught up inside of your thoughts to see it.
Open Your Eyes
We live in a world full of opportunity. Opportunity for anything that you want to do. At first when I was 16 years old I was interested in creating more dating options for myself. I approached people with the intention of grabbing phone numbers and getting dates. What a wild ride that was. I couldn’t go to the bar at 16 so I found myself at the mall 5 times per week for two hours a day. I appreciate each time that I took myself to the mall. It was something that I didn’t want to do every time that I went but as soon as I got there things changed. I became a different person. I was a person who wasn’t limited by the same chains that each of these people put on their minds. Each of these people that I walked past in the mall had this pre – conceived idea that it was impossible to walk up to someone you didn’t know and make a friend.
I was free.
This world is full of opportunity waiting for you to take it. All you have to do is be willing to open your eyes and take the plunge. In 4 years I can tell you that approaching people never gets easy. There’s never a day when I go out and go “Man, I’m so excited to go out and approach people and give them a chance to reject me!” It’s never fun going into it, but the rush that I feel coming out of it is a completely different feeling. I feel connected. I feel powerful. I feel limitless.
The one thing that I’ve learned and that you can take from this journal entry is that you must keep moving forward. No matter what step you’re currently at you must keep moving forward. Just found out about the idea of approaching people? Go out there and walk up to a stranger for the first time. Have you been digging your nose into self – help books for a year? It’s time for you to take a risk. Have you been meeting people for the past year? It’s time to develop a long – lasting relationship. No matter what step you’re at you must keep moving forward, and that requires you to take a risk.
It’s Your Turn
Welcome to Social Dynamics. Built off of relationship development Social Dynamics is the study of how you can optimize your life using people to propel you to where you want to go. I look around at network marketing businesses, major corporations and even local businesses and I have to laugh. Even they’re catching on that it’s not about what you know, it’s about who you know. Social Dynamics is the study of how you can live an optimal lifestyle using a network you create by learning the social skills necessesary to be your own CEO.
How do you get started? By shooting me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org, or shooting Alden Tan an email here. The two fundamentals of Social Dynamics are Assertiveness and Awareness. This blog of Alden Tan’s is here to raise your Awareness of how to get started with Social Dynamics. When it comes to Assertiveness? Well, shoot us an email for the first step.