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How to get over your fucking anger

Yo guys this post is going to be about anger and why anger is natural and awesome, but sometimes pretty fucked up.

For those who know me well, I am like one of the angriest person alive. I am like the Incredible Hulk waiting to just come out and beat the shit out of anyone and anything. However, I may be a very angry person in life, but I am NOT at all violent. I have so far gotten into zero fights (nearly into one though, no fists were raised, no heads were bashed in). That being said, you have no idea how many times I have walked away from fights.

I have however, broken a few laptops and punched my cupboard a few times. That was fucking awesome.

Anger is in all of us. It depends on to what degree and how you actually use it. I am no psychologist or anger expert, but let me try!

1) Realize that doing the right thing is not glamorous like at all

They say that walking away from a fight or letting someone win an argument on purpose to avoid trouble is the right thing, simply because no one gets hurt and a lot of trouble is avoided. So therefore, you actually win and that makes you super cool right?

No. Face it, it’s still going to make you feel like shit. Even though you have walked away from a fight, you have effectively passed off the chance to rain hurt on him. Even though you let someone win an argument, you still have that memory of that dickhead insulting you.

People may feed you shit like, “It’s good you didn’t get into a fight! I means you didn’t dirty your hands!” or “Don’t stoop down to his level!”. Is all this shit suppose to make you feel good? No not really.

So my fucking point is, you have to realize that doing the right thing may not give you any of that glamour, especially when your friends aren’t going to be there to sing praises for you. It’s up to you be a man and tough it out.

2) Just let yourself be pissed all you like (without doing stupid shit)

Forget about doing the right thing now. If you are pissed, you are pissed. Don’t ever suppress your anger else it’s just going to blow up in your face later on. Humans have emotions and try as we might, we can never help the way we feel.

It is important to let your thoughts go wild and let yourself know you are feeling pissed. Don’t be like, “Yeah I did the right thing by walking away from a fight, therefore the universe will work in my favour… I guess”. That’s just plain lying to yourself.

3) Unleash your anger in healthy ways

If you want to be boring and gay go ahead and scream into a pillow or write an angry letter to God. Okay seriously speaking, do those. They actually help. Write a long-ass letter to your enemy and don’t hold back. Tell him or her you want them to get cancer and shit and hope all sorts of bad shit happen to them.Go ahead and even punch the wall, it’s not going to hurt anyone else.

Here comes the kicker: Do not send the letter.

4) Allow yourself to be happy

Because life is short and you deserve to be happy. Anger is good because it’s natural and makes you realize you are human. It’s what you do with it that matters. Remember that every second you are angry and feeling like shit, you have wasted a chance at being happy. Besides, everyone gets pissed off at many points in their lives and that means the world isn’t against you. Bad shit happens, but not all the time. Life is unfair, but it doesn’t mean you have to make unfair for others.

5) Realize that doing that right thing ultimately is right

Here’s the reality of what a fight is: You win a fight. You get sued and have to deal with the court and a huge loss in legal fees.

You floored a dude. He dies. You go to jail and your life is totally gone.

You win an argument. You probably feel bad right after that because maybe that person didn’t really mean any harm.

This is where your mind works once the anger subsides. You got to realize that eventually doing the right thing is good. Being angry feels like shit as it is, so don’t create more trouble for yourself by doing stupid shit.

Of course I don’t mean that you would feel good immediately from doing the right thing, but it’s just something you have to realize yourself when you stop, take a breath and look around on the many great things you have in your life. So chill the fuck out because there’s actually a silver lining, there always is.

Do I apply the above techniques? Truth be told, no not all the time. I am only human.

I get angry like any normal person and I hate to be angry. It eats me up inside. But I also know that it would be nice to give someone else a helping hand, rather than a fist to lend in time of need.

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13 comments

  1. Branden - April 2, 2015 12:58 am

    Thanks 🙂

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  2. Fart Face - April 22, 2015 3:39 am

    I agree with brandon
    as a 15 year old girl i needed this so fucking bad
    tytytytytyty

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  3. peter - May 9, 2015 10:34 pm

    Im crazy mad over this fucking world.over politician,press,news,commercials,religions, wealth of idiots footballer s,and many many other things.I have 4 kids but if someone will give me switch which can wipe all humanity I will press it with no time.

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  4. Someonerather - August 28, 2015 10:50 am

    I gotta say that sometimes i feel the same way as Peter, when I feel like the world is filled with nothing but arseholes and I’m alone wading against the tide of stupidity.

    After my anger subsides however, I realise there are many other people who feel the same way I do and since I can’t make the universe bend to my will, I need to make the most of what I’ve got.

    Also talk to somebody who will make you feel better about it. I’ve made the mistake of talking to a family member about my feelings and she only said shit that made me rage and slam doors

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  5. NOYB - September 21, 2015 10:11 pm

    This is bullshit. Fuck this dumb ass article, Fuck you all, you stupid fucking cock suckers. You all suck cheesy balls. You’re all a bunch of big pricks. Ok, I feel better, thanks, Great article.

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    • Ryan - September 28, 2015 3:44 am

      Your godamn right this article was great with all the shitty things happening on my life right now like for fucks sake I am just so pissed so easily but what I do is fucking punch a hole in the damn wall money well spent.JK but even though I do that sometimes it is normal and this was great your damn right dude life can be a shitty bitch at times but it can be great and live it like you mean it.

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  6. Ryan - September 28, 2015 3:45 am

    My life is shit!at times but this was fucking helpful thanks man.

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  7. it doesnt matter - January 4, 2016 3:55 am

    I’m so glad i read this

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  8. binman - April 3, 2016 11:47 am

    YEAH DUDE THIS REALLY HELPED IM JUST ANGRY THAT MY DAD THREW THE BIN IN THE BIN AND THIS HELPS THANKS A LOT MAN IM FUMING

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  9. Supperman - June 25, 2016 7:31 am

    hey if this keeps even one person from really getting hurt I’m down the road, but if its not then maybe you need a little more, walk a mile in that persons shoes is so freaking hard when your life is so different, but is it? so you never robed a train, have you ever been robed? use your head! we all get robed every day of one thing or another, you just might not see it… what I’m saying is empathy isn’t as far as we thing and everyone can be there… and that is a huge release when we think its just about us and how we are mad, wile they sing happy goes lucky and how life is joy, joy, after all in the end none of us are getting out alive and no one is going to win the I’m perfect awards.
    Good luck all

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  10. Sonakshi - August 13, 2016 7:53 pm

    Great post! I’ve written a lot of letters when I get angry but once I wrote it on a notebook and forgot to incinerate it :P. One of my friends (she isn’t now) read it and showed it to the person I wrote for. She was super pissed with me and I was furious with my friend and it became a big big fight. I’d written so many awful things and now when I remember, I find it funny.

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    • sup - September 17, 2016 10:50 pm

      what a terrible friend for showing that to whoever she showed it to. at least they are outta your life.

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  11. Fason - September 17, 2016 12:14 am

    Thanks so much, i thought i was the only one. One of the best post for sure. People lock this stuff up. Yo, i was pissed off before i read this. And know im fine. Thanks for reaching out.

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