Getting Personal… And FINALLY doing what you’ve told me to do

Usually, I write about something inspiring and give some helpful advice.

Well… today is a bit different.

I want to pull back the curtain a little bit and sharing something more personal.

Here goes:

I was recently out with some friends and we were just chilling and having some drinks. As it is already November, the topic on how fast 2012 has gone by came up. One of them went around asking, “So what have you achieved this year so far?”. That question hit me… real hard.

This group of friends doesn’t know about the strong feelings I have about this particular year. And this got me thinking about how I should share some of this with you. You will see why as you read further.

All my closest friends know that I’ve been working really hard on my blog this year. As much as I’m always on my “live life to the fullest” mode and believing that working my life away isn’t the way to go, I still have a lot I want to achieve this year.

I think of 2012 as a time of big change for me, where I move forward with my blog and my life.

I think of my past year, of what I’ve started, what I want to change, do and accomplish this year…. both personally and professionally. My friends laughed with me and at me. They may not have admitted it, but I think I got them thinking about their lives too.

Here are just a few examples of past years for me. I’ve made goals for:

–ย Travel more and expose myself to other cultures

– Bboy harder by taking part in more competitions (which I did. I lost many times)

– Workout harder to get a six-pack (Still on the way!)

– Try to be a more positive person (hence, I took up meditation)

– Grow a loyal reader fanbase (Hitting 3,000 subscribers already!)

– Start a business and earn money off the blog

– Create a new product for my blog

– Spend more time with my mom…

… and it goes on.

Some big goals, some small.

Anyway, 2012 may be just another year, but it felt extremely different.ย 

I found myself being very determined in changing my life altogether. I wanted to make big changes in myself and my blog, all for the purpose of moving forward and realizing dreams. No I don’t think this is some paradigm shift I experienced, as if my whole world turned inside out (I already went through that when my dad died).

Maybe it’s just the fact that 2012 is coming to an end, or that I’m suddenly starting to feel old after my 27th birthday. Who knows!

You may be thinking, “Alden, the year is already coming to an end, why are you telling us this now?”

What I didn’t tell you is that I made this year about you!!!

I’m serious.

As many of you have noticed, my writing style has evolved since I started my blog. I’ve gone from blogging about random nonsense to blogging with impact, where I want to write on personal development ONLY to help YOU.

Hence, all the questions I’ve been asking you guys, like what you’re struggling with, what pain you’re going through and how I can help you. I also have a new “Written for you” series where readers tell me what me to write for them.

Now, there’s way more to come. I’m always interested to know what you guys have in mind, so keep the ideas coming!

BUT… (yes, there’s a “but”)

There is REALLY ONE BIG request I’ve been holding back on for a long time now. It’s a piece of advice told to me long ago, but I came up with a bunch of excuses to why I wasn’t good enough for it yet. I held back on it despite MANY, and I mean many people telling me about it.

I’m contemplating changing my mind right now and giving you what you’ve been asking for.

But I’m really nervous because it means sharing more about myself, more so than I’ve in the past. It’s also about making that huge step in my blog.

And I’m also going to need your help.

Anyway, the REALLY BIG request is… (stay tuned until next time).



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  1. Izzy - November 14, 2012 11:07 am

    Well played Alden.

    You know I’ll be back :).

    That being said – I enjoyed reading the top portion of this post. It is inspiring to hear about the actions you are taking and have taken. One of the reasons I have enjoyed your blog is because I have been able to watch first hand (via your blog) and see your growth. Your writing gets better, your message gets stronger, you try different things, etc, etc.

    I can feel your commitment in your actions. You write guest posts like you need it to live!

    It’s inspiring to see someone back up their talk with action. I appreciate what you do.

    Do us all a favor and put out the follow up post soon!

    • alden - November 14, 2012 7:49 pm

      Haha hey Izzy!

      Thanks man. I’m really glad that you’re following me.

      That’s all me man, willing to always try all sorts of different shit.

      I’ll be back don’t worry!

  2. Jason "J-Ryze" Fonceca - November 14, 2012 11:47 am

    What is it! I wanna know!

    • alden - November 14, 2012 7:50 pm

      Soon my friend!

  3. Kie - November 14, 2012 12:00 pm

    Hah, oh damn. Had me on the edge of the seat wanting to know what it was, you sly bugger you!

    It sounds like you’ve had a very productive year & achieved a lot, it’s really inspiring to read about and I’m really glad you opened up and gave us all the chance to read about it. Personal growth is one of the most important things in our lives yet until I found these blogs I knew nobody who talked about it, crazy right?

    So thank you, thank you for helping not just me but all your readers out. Having someone to talk to and ask for advice has been absolutely amazing, keep on living the dream Alden!

    • alden - November 14, 2012 7:52 pm

      Hey Kieran!

      Indeed it has been a long year! Learnt so much and worked so hard.

      That’s the beauty of internet today man. Just log on. Find. Read. I’m discovering new blogs every single day.

      You’re welcome Kieran. Your kind words have inspired me too ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Aya - November 14, 2012 12:09 pm

    Can’t wait for the next blog, so mean of you to keep us anticipated and curious like that!

    Well done though, expecting an email soon.

    Take care.

    • alden - November 14, 2012 7:52 pm

      Oh you will ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Stefano - November 14, 2012 1:32 pm

    2012 has been a fantastic year for me so far, too. I moved abroad to the US, started my online business, got a good (offline) job, learned a lot, got in better shape and so forth. If 2013 is going to be as good as 1012… I can’t wait!

    • alden - November 14, 2012 7:52 pm

      Well let’s hope the world doesn’t end ๐Ÿ˜›

      Nice! What business is it? Show us?

  6. Pragati - November 14, 2012 2:00 pm

    Oh Alden ! that is a very nice way to get me to come back here…!!!

    All I wanna say is :: **I love life, but not all the time. I get pissed, sad, frustrated and I also get annoyed by little things like losing my pen.**

    It is an amazing feeling to find like minded people who are doing exactly what I’ve been fearing to do for so long. Living my dreams !!! I wanna be that person too.

    And Please, please, pleassseeee write the next post soon. I can’t wait to read about, what it is, that you are going to share.(curious + impatient) I have a feeling its going to be inspiring in many ways.

    And btw you have really Good art work and pictures on your website, every time I reload there’s a new picture behind the Blog title. Those are really cool !

    • alden - November 14, 2012 7:58 pm

      Hey Pragati!

      Thanks so much!

      Haha well, dreams can be tough too you know. But it’s all good! Just living life!

      I’ll come back soon with the post! Hang tight!

      I’m glad I’ve helped you in some ways. And you too, have helped me. Thanks for commenting!

  7. John - November 14, 2012 6:37 pm

    Alden, I’m tuned in! ๐Ÿ™‚ What a year 2012 was for year. I always enjoy reading your blog posts because of how real and genuine they are. I walk away having learned something. Keep it up!!! We’re rooting for you.

    • alden - November 14, 2012 8:00 pm

      Hey John!

      Thanks so much man! I’ll be back soon don’t worry!

      Thanks for the confidence!

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  9. Financial Samurai - November 16, 2012 5:00 pm

    Congrats on getting 3,000+ subscribers so quick! That took me 3 years to get. I’m sure you’re going to do great!


    • alden - November 19, 2012 7:14 am

      Wow 3 years? Haha well I can get more soon =p


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