1) Stop being so fucking nice
There’s a difference between being nice and being submissive.
You may think that you’re being polite and going out of your way to make sure you don’t offend people, but that may not be how others see it. In fact, others may see it as a lack of confidence and indecisiveness, especially when you keep hovering in out and out of a solid answer “I’m not sure. Let me check with…”.
Be careful that assholes out there don’t start taking advantage of you then.
Being too nice doesn’t get you respect. Not much anyway.
So by all means, keep your conscience clear, help others, be kind to the less fortunate, but don’t forget that you’re allowed to be nice to yourself too. You gotta watch out for yourself. There’s no point sacrificing your time, money or whatever when it’s going to show that you’re pissed or unhappy anyway.
2) Stop fearing failure
Failure happens. In fact, it’s inevitable.
No amount of planning and goal-setting will allow you to escape failure for control is an illusion.
Don’t hold back just because you fear you’d make mistakes and end up failing. Everybody fails, even the best.
Just get out there and embrace failure. Make fabulous mistakes. That’s how you gain extreme clarity for success.
3) Comparing yourself with others
If you look up to someone so much that you want to emulate their success and methods, it’s just going to turn on you.
There’s simply no way you can follow them exactly.
Even if you got the directions mapped out, your journey is going to be different.
So gather your balls and have the courage to walk your own path. That way you can beam with pride knowing full well that you did it on your own. You don’t want some half-hearted form of success where the only thing you can enjoy is the money.
You’d be surprised how far you can go just by applying yourself.
4) Attributing everything to luck
You don’t want to make shit happen. You just sit down and hope luck brings you success on some cosmic level even you can’t understand, not that you want to. You just want the rewards.
When something good does happen, you tell others, “Oh nah I’m just lucky”.
Luck is bullshit. Luck is not a strategy for success. Neither is it a good dogma to live by.
Find passion. Do what you love. Keep at it and try your best all the time. Then let amazing shit happen on its own. It does. That’s how it works.
5) Letting the shitty state of the world get to you
Until you keep thinking that you’re “just one guy” and you can’t do a thing about it. Life is hopeless.
Yeah, you’re indeed just one guy among over 7 billions peeps. Shit happens in a way you can’t understand.
Life is a mystery. That is a fact.
But the shitty state of the world and the self-destructive people it brings has nothing to do with you.
It just happens. It just keeps spinning. If you want to let it bother you, that’s all on you.
Never underestimate how you, as “one guy” can make a big difference in someone’s life. Don’t believe? Life is a mystery.
Stop letting the world bother you. You’re stuck on this planet, but you can do anything you want if you put your mind to it.
6) Sadness, feeling down, beaten down, feeling like shit
You aren’t the only one. You aren’t alone.
It gets better.
There’s always hope.
It gets better.
You’re bound to fuck up, but only you can forgive yourself and start moving on.
Stop laying blame on things around you. Take responsibility for everything and for the sole fact you can improve your life.
Not everything is your fault. Don’t blame yourself either.
The only thing holding you back from doing something fucking awesome and achieving your dreams is… also yourself. Nobody can tell you what to do.
Stop second guessing yourself. If you feel it, go for it and stop hesitating.
Only you know best.