10 years of losing to finally win your first victory


I got a little treat for y’all today.

This is a video of me taking part in a battle.

Here’s what so special about it: This is the very first time I actually won a 1 on 1 round in a competition.

And that effectively took 10 years along with several losses (getting knocked out in the first round).

Yeah I was pretty haunted by that for a while. I was 26 when I finally won. My other friends were winning whole competitions as young as 18.

I felt left out.

But there’s absolutely no legitimate reason or justification to why I took so long. I just didn’t try hard enough.

I made up a ton of excuses during those 10 years, like being too scared to join anything, “I wasn’t ready”, exaggerated minor injuries or being too shy to dance in front of others.

I kept looking for short cuts when the answer was plain and simple: Constant practice

Was it worth it? Yes

Should we all try so hard even though it takes super long and feels totally demoralizing? 

Sure. But always go back and remember why you do what you do. Try to have fun along the way, which is arguably the best way to learn and progress faster. Again, it’s totally worth it.

Sides, it wouldn’t feel that hard when you’re fueled by passion.

What about you? Was there something which took you really long to achieve? Let me know?

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  1. Sam - February 27, 2013 2:28 pm

    Hi, Alden Tan
    Just to say thanks for sharing these videos.
    I enjoy them a lot.
    Following ones passion leads to happiness. I can see that you enjoy what you’re doing.

    • alden - February 28, 2013 7:15 am

      No prob!

  2. Frank T - February 27, 2013 3:00 pm

    Alden – Excellent post, man! I suffered a spinal cord injury where I was paralyzed from the shoulders down – unable to move or feel and barely able to breathe. Within a year I was walking in a walker and I slow danced with my wife at a party. I’m still dealing with a lot of issues but I still see progress. Is it taking super long? Yes. Depressing? Beyond all belief. Demoralizing? I can’t begin to tell you. Is it worth it? Absolutely.

    • alden - February 28, 2013 7:15 am

      Wow man you’re way better than me. I don’t know how I’d be able to pick myself up if I ever get paralyzed. That’s a major fear.

      How did you do it? What did you tell yourself to pull througgh?

      • Frank T - March 1, 2013 4:27 am

        Dude, please! I am no better or worse than you. Fear is fear whether it’s of never walking again or never winning a battle, we’re all on a level playing field when it comes to dealing with it.

        To pull through:
        1) I had A SHIT-TON of support from work, family, friends who encouraged me every step of the way.
        2) I was running 5K a day, working out and practicing Ashtanga yoga before I got hurt so when it came time for rehab, I was no stranger to pushing myself.
        3) I held onto some credos like this one from Winston Churchill: “When you’re going through hell, keep going”. I don’t want to bog down the blog with the others so I’ll email them to you.
        4) I got it in my head that my life isn’t all about myself. I have a wife and 2 sons to support. I also found that in my recovery, many others were looking to me for inspiration. Who was I to let them all down?

        Problem is, after 7 years I’m still in the walker and I’m feeling STUCK in more ways than one. That’s where YOU come in! I downloaded ‘How to Revive Your Life’ and I still owe you an answer to your questions: “What’s making you so pissed in life? What’s holding you back? What do you hate?” I’ll answer you in email.

        Congrats again on your victory! Next step is a round two victory? I’m sure it won’t take another 10 years…..

        • alden - March 1, 2013 11:06 am

          Hey man,

          For real, that’s great advice.

          You ALREADY made it man, with 2 sons. People would kill to have that life.

          You’re more than halfway there yourself. It’s awesome you’re already self-aware of your own challenges.

          • Frank T - March 1, 2013 11:33 pm

            Thanks, man and thanks for the perspective. You’re doing great things here Alden! I’ll be in touch.

          • alden - March 6, 2013 8:15 am


  3. Anthony Lee - February 27, 2013 5:05 pm

    Hah. Boy can I relate. Let’s see. What has taken me super long? Well….I’m 32 years old and am still a server in a restaurant. All my friends graduated college and have “real jobs”. I am still struggling to make my way in the world.
    Is it taking super long…..obviously (been trying to “figure it out” for like a decade now).
    Demoralizing. What do you think?
    Worth it. Definitely. And I’ll tell you why.
    So many people settle for mediocrity. They just flow through their days letting life “happen” to them.
    Others that do find success do it following a formula specifically for monetary success. They live a comfortable, yet passionless life.
    I am working toward making some kind of difference. I want to mean something in the world. In the end, I don’t know how far I’ll get. I may die a broke waiter one day. But…as long as I stay on this path I know that one day I will be able to say that my ideas affected people. My ideas made a difference. I instituted positive change in this crazy and sometimes shitty world.
    I will know that I did something powerful.
    That is totally worth it.

    • alden - February 28, 2013 7:17 am

      That’s an awesome story man.

      For real! Too many people settle for mediocrity. Too many people also force themselves to go through something they don’t even want to do due to some retarded obligation.

      Hang in there man. It’s not easy at first. But it gets better.

  4. Zames - February 28, 2013 3:24 pm

    Yo! Respect! I haven’t taken part in any battles yet because I suck and give loads of excuses like school and all.
    I’m looking forward to changing all that and putting my all into training!
    Will be watching out for you at this year’s Radikal Forze Jam!

    • alden - March 1, 2013 2:12 am

      Haha get out there yo.

      See you there too… but I ain’t taking part haha I don’t have a team.

  5. Siegfried - February 28, 2013 6:26 pm

    Pretty cool, congratulations on winning your first battle 😀

    • alden - March 1, 2013 2:10 am

      Thanks dude.

  6. Chris - March 12, 2013 7:09 pm

    Wow man! That was dope! You sure took that one. I definitely could relate to this. Well, in all of my battles I only won once up until now. I hate to think about it but it’s the truth. And like I’m really passionate of this art and I do try my hardest during practice, but like, sometimes I feel bad ’cause I don’t get the recognition for what I do. In my crew we’ve got the juniors and the seniors and most of the seniors would give compliments towards the other juniors but I barely get one. Sometimes I feel like I’m less talented and that kinda discourages me in a lot of ways. And I hate it when some of the juniors would steal moves from me. I invested a lot of time in watching tutorials and creating my own moves, but like some of them would bite it and say that it was there move. Now, they’re like getting praised ’cause of it. They’re always being a KNOW IT ALL in my face and I’m sick of it. Like, I’m not saying I’m better or that I’m good. In fact I still suck balls. My point is they try to correct me when they themselves don’t even know how to do the move well. They tell me that they know how to Windmill and that I should go and practice it when in fact they can’t even do it.
    I’m trying my hardest and I know becoming better takes time, but is it worth the wait? Well, yes. ‘Cause in my life I’ve taken few things seriously and one of it is Bboying. This is one of my passions in life.
    I know I’m not good right now, I know I’ve got a lot of things to learn, to experience, a lot of hard times, but I can’t give up now.
    I’ve always dreamed of batttling internationally, meeting other bboys around the globe. Winning competitions. But above all that, I started this dance because I enjoy doing it, I could express myself through it, and I feel like this is what I do best. It is worth the wait.

    Dude, you’re such an inspiration. I come to your blog regularly to get inspired and look for something interesting. I like how you see things differently in life. It kinda opens up my mind to new things.
    You definitely should continue what you do man. Props to you!
    You help people like me who’s trying to make it in life.

    • alden - March 14, 2013 5:58 am

      Sup sup fellow Bboy!

      Haha it’s my goal to take the Red Bull Bc One stage myself.

      Chill on the juniors. Fuck them. Biters are lame.

      You should know it yourself, originality is important. No point in comparing with others and being “good”. There’re so many underground Bboys out there who are not on YouTube but they’re so sick. Do they care? No. The just love what they’re doing!

      Thanks so much for the words man. It means a lot!


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