Have you guys seen this sick video? Watch it, it’s ultra worth it.

And guess what? I got an interview lined up with him.

Check this space soon!

I’ve been reading up on a lot on the bad rap on people who undergo cosmetic surgery has been getting.

Like you know, you shouldn’t mess with how God made you, or it’s better to be all natural.

As such, everyone bitches about how lame it is to be plastic. Like being fake means it’s not beautiful.

The way I see it…

… It’s kind of a life hack.

to

Make your life as awesome as it is for yourself.

With whatever ways, including money.

I don’t really see how bad it can be when you’re going for something, when you want something, even though others are bitching about it.

Which boils down to:

Make it as easy as possible for yourself

Sometimes, in life, you can just make it easy for yourself.

Instead of going the normal route of doing things what others think is right or is expected out of you.

I think it’s common sense.

So go for it. Go for your special weight loss surgeries, your tummy tucks to remove stretch marks or nose surgery.

I don’t see anything wrong with it.

As much I think being real, being yourself and realizing how awesome you are, just making it that much easier for yourself in this world is cool too.

Whatever it is, whining or debating about it isn’t really going to help you or anyone.

That’s why, at the end of the day, those who go for it, get what they want in life, despite what others think or say.

Sup guys,

I’ve been busy as shit writing up guest posts from around the web again!

Take your time and read’em. I put in a lot of effort in’em.

A little note on guest posting:

It’s basically writing for another blog. With that, it makes you the guest.

You got to see whether you’ve to take off your shoes or not, when you enter the house.

Think about it.

The 7 straight-up truths on blogging, and they hurt! 

Ryan Hanley is the master when it comes to building relationships online and creating immense value! It was a great experience working with him, and what more, clicking with another badass online.

Partying Philosophy 101: Why you shouldn’t be generous, even if you’re filthy rich
Modest money is all about managing your finances, in a down to earth manner. Pretty cool blog like the owner.

This post is about my experience partying hardcore last year and spending as if I was king, when I wasn’t.

Let passion be the sauce of your epic adventure

Adventure Sauce it awesome. As the name speaks for itself, the blog is all about passion and finding adventure.

And the owner is an awesome dude who travelled across America, with a really awesome viral video he created!

I wrote this post because I am all about passion and I want to let you know how passion can be your awesome adventure.

Did you guys know my email series is still up and getting more and more subscribers?

Yeah.

Don’t miss out.

Fill in your details on the right to get some of the love.

Peace.

This is a post where I talk to myself.

Maybe you’re the same as me now.

Struggling.

I am like totally listless, lethargic and lost. The triple Ls.

Sitting in front of my computer, wondering what to do next with this blog, while listening to U2 on YouTube.

It feels extremely frustrating. You just don’t know what to do next, or worse, you done what you’re supposed to do, but results aren’t showing.

And like me, you just wonder how the fuck the proven and successive people did it!

The problem with dreams, and how people see it

It’s not easy.

There I said it.

It’s not.

Because nobody fucking told you it was going to be THIS hard. No one is there to describe what hard work really means. People easily spout, “Don’t give up”, but they forgot to tell you that it feels like shit.

Everyone’s like, “Yeah yeah, follow your dreams” or “Live life to the fullest!” and all that.

But the dark side of dreams is rarely in the limelight.

This is Dream of the Endless, also known as Morpheus from the world of Sandman. He is not easy. He is complicated.

The gap

The gap is simply the distance between you and your dream.

I got huge ass dreams. I want to write and inspire. I want to make big bucks and start travelling the world to meet all sorts of amazing Bboys. I want to buy all sorts of shit for myself and my friends.

Now, go back to the top. Where am I?

I am still here. In front of the computer, and U2′s With or Without You is on repeat.

Big gap? For real.

The worst part is that, when you’re standing over the edge and looking at the gap, you can’t really see the end. What’s more, the gap is deep as shit and…

… you actually need to jump in.

And I say there are no excuses for dreams

None.

Dreams are huge. They are your innermost desire and love.

So absolutely nothing can stand in the way.

In the gap you’ll find that it’s really scary. Pretty much no one is there to really guide you to help you get what you want in life. 

In the gap you’ll fail, but that’s where you pick yourself up.

Pretty soon you’ll emerge a better you. 

No more whining.

Go.

This is Hob Gadling, a friend of Dream’s. He cannot die and they meet up every century for drinks. 

Now watch what he says below:

Dreams are to die for, and worth living for.

                                                                                        -Alden, 4th May 4:37am

You’ve all sorts of dreams and ambitions. You want to be your own boss, make loads of money, work from home and have all the financial freedom in the world.

 
Feeling totally inspired at the start, you thought that you could achieve them all.

 
But sometimes you just feel like giving up. Because it’s so damn hard. You KNEW starting a business or a blog would be a hard, but not THIS hard.

 
And when you fail, you think that’s the end of it all.

 
Now whose fault is it? The economy? Your lack of time? That no one is there to mentor you? Or your surroundings which makes it impossible to chase your dreams?

 
This may sound harsh: But none of the above are correct.

 
If this was supposed to be a blame game in the first place

 
Then you can only blame yourself.

 
I know. It’s not your fault.

 
A lot of things are out of your control right? Like you can’t quit your job to pursue your dreams, or you can’t help but feel tired after work cause you’re only human.

 
But let me put it straight for you…

 
… There are no excuses, when it comes to dreams

 
Zero.

 
Anything external or from your surroundings are boils down to you.

 
If anything, the only thing that’s holding you back from your dreams is you.

 
Why are you your greatest foe?

Because:

 
Anything external or beyond your control are nothing but a constant . They just happen. They move, whether you like it or not.

 
But you, you have the power of choice.

 
It’s ENTIRELY UP TO YOU to perceive what happens around you to be good or bad. It’s all your attitude.

 
Maybe that sounds a little cliché, but my own choice words to see things around me it would be,” The world doesn’t stop throwing shit at you, whether you like it or not. So you might as well make a positive spin out of it.”

 
This is what separates a champion from failure

 
So take a step back, and ask yourself how much do you want your dreams? Am I making up excuses?? Are the external forces so bad that a little extra effort won’t get rid of them?

 
Now who is your ally in this game?

Guess what? It’s failure.

 
Failure is your biggest ally and he’d stick by you all the way.

 
It is through failure where you learn your greatest lessons.

 
Failure gives you the opportunity to pick yourself up and go forward.

 
Failure makes it clear for you what is right and what is wrong (so you won’t keep repeating the same mistakes)

 
In other words, failure makes things real for you.

 
Here’s a question:

 
How often do you feel inspired by people who go against the odds and pick themselves up? It’s easy to think, “Oh wow that’s inspiring. They must be really talented and hardworking”.

Well maybe. But guess what? They all failed before.

 
The Bealtes- Turned down by a recording company who didn’t like their sound.

 
Michael Jordan- Cut from his own high school basketball.

 
Walt Disney- Fired from a newspaper, saying he lacked original ideas.

 
Abraham Lincoln- Fiancé died, had a nervous breakdown and defeated in eight elections.

 
Now, what do you think they did with the failure they had?

 
Real failure only comes when you stop trying

Failure isn’t the end. It never was meant to be.

 
The power of choice again is always in you. After getting beaten down, losing or being discouraged, do you want give up or just try again?

 
All too often people always think that failure sucks. It comes with a crappy feeling and everyone is probably going to look down on you. When you fail, you can’t pick yourself up again…

 
… That’s bullshit man.

 
You shouldn’t have to feel bad for failure.
It is the failing that creates the realness that allows you to forge your own path to success.
You only truly fail when you stop trying.
So don’t stop.
And one day, you’ll be the one telling others of your famous failures.

Hey guys!

Just checking back and letting you guys know what I’ve been up to.

As usual, I was busy going crazy with guest posts again!

These two particular posts were frigging amazing, for the very fact that the two bloggers were there to guide me through the writing process. It’s bloody incredible how one can learn so much in just a couple of projects and also just through email.

Check them out:

The Mystery of the Non-smoking Smoker:

This post chronicles my tale of how I nearly picked up smoking and how the decision to say no at the tender age of 10 made me the man I am today.

How a Breakdancer Found Passion for Himself:

My long journey as a Bboy. I speak for myself and all Bboys out there when I say this, “It isn’t just about spinning on our heads”. For a deeper look into Bboying and how it can turn a life around, check out this post I wrote at Advanced Riskology.

Do you guys know I got an email series now?

If you noticed, there’s a huge opt-in header at the top.

I got a new series I created from real, personal stories that can help you learn how to now give a fuck about others. 

All you got to do is fill in your name and email. And you’d receive the love from me.

Until then,

Peace out.

I was playing a game of League of Legends a few days ago with some friends. Basically, it’s a team game where people had to cooperate to take down the other team with your own heroes.

But we ended up cursing and swearing at a team member for being useless. A lot of funny shit were said.

After the match, this conversation ensued:

Me: Haha man, that was some funny shit you said just now.

Annoying Friend: Dude, when I am pissed, I come up with the funniest shit!

Me: … Can’t you reply Haha or LOL like a normal person?

This kind of reminds me of how when you compliment someone of say, the way they look, they’re like, “Nah man, just having a good hair day blah blah blah” and I’m like thinking, “Geez, just ACCEPT the compliment and shut the fuck up”.

You see, I was wondering why Annoying Friend had to be so annoying that way, like he has to be so high and mighty over some joke he created.

Then it hit me…

Annoying Friend wasn’t just trying to fish for compliments (maybe he was), but he was being ridiculously proud of the shit he does!

And if you ask me…

… That’s fucking awesome.

You ought to be ridiculously proud of who you are and what you do, down to the littlest!

Normally people would tell you to just take pride in yourself and whatever you do. They tell you’re special and you don’t need to hide your true-self.

All that jazz.

But I say, be fucking ridiculously proud of who you are and every small little thing you do in life.

Are you sick of hearing that yet? I hope not cause you’re going to hear more of it.

Be ridiculously proud because:

You are actually seriously amazing just by being yourself. No one else other than yourself can understand that. If someone else isn’t happy about that, fuck them. No one can understand your years of experience and memories to create the feelings and way of thinking which you have today.

That being said, you definitely have your own weird little shit and idiosyncrasies.

Does that make you flawed, or special? I say special.

Now, you can either hide behind a mask, afraid that people would laugh at you for being different or still doing weird high-school crap for kids, or you can stand strong, and be ridiculously proud of it! 

Because it’s who you are and what you represent.

That’s me at the training grounds before breaking.

I love laying down and chilling. Posing for stupid pictures. Then uploading it on Facebook in hopes of getting a few comments and likes.

I was also whining a shit load then because I was nursing a bad flu when the picture was taken.

Stupid? Immature? Too much free time?

Whatever, I feel great.

Because I was and am ridiculously proud of being Alden Tan the Bboy. 

And I am writing this shit down to you like it is.

Start being ridiculously proud of every single ounce, detail, element of yourself…

… and the random shit you do.

Because if you aren’t, who else will be?

“Born poor, but of honored and humble people, I am particularly proud to die poor.”                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Pope John XXIII

So go forth. Take pride in the little things you do, like the stupid joke you made up but only you seem to laugh, that cool picture of yourself you took, the number of Likes you got, the fact that you can down a can of beer in 5 seconds, the number of Xbox Live achievements you have, the poem you wrote, your choice of music. The list goes on.

Life’s too short to not be proud of who you are anyway.

We all get pissed off from time to time. For some of us, it seems to occur a lot, like we spend an amazing 50% of the day feeling frustrated or angry.

The thoughts are always fucking wild. You can’t seem to stop that shit. Like that friend who said something to piss you off and it keeps running through your head, or you come up with crazy-ass scenarios that may or may not happen in the future.

But whatever it is, you’re making shit up.

Problems suck

Like, that’s quite obvious.

I’ll admit. I’ve got a big problem. And I mentioned it above.

Sometimes my thoughts go wild and I go on turbo-auto-pilot mode and the anger builds up. Everything gets exaggerated and worse of all, the solutions don’t seem to be around. I want to beat the shit out of some people, but I don’t want to end up in jail. 

When will it all end? Never? I don’t know.

Problems come in many forms for all of us. Especially the little ones. The LITTLE ones seem to piss you off the most! 

Crowded places. People getting in the way. Fucked up colleagues. That ONE thing your friend said. The rain. That cough that persists.

List…

just…

goes on.

The number #1 solution to all problems

Then it hit me, like a hot girl smiling at you.

No seriously.

If a hot girl smiles at me, I’ll be like, “Oh yeah…“, then all of life’s problems go away.

Put it this way: Do you drink? You know when the first couple of drinks kick in and you feel that little buzz? And you’re… happy?

It’s like that.

There are many solutions to all of life’s problem, but it all can be boiled down to this: Chill the fuck out.

Now, it’s pretty cliché to say chill out, relax or take a breather. I know. It’s also easier said than done.

But what I am trying to emphasize is that, if you believe that it is that easy, that chilling out can work for you and that’s all to it, it CAN work. 

Also, because when you chill out, your brain, body and whatever releases all the happy chemicals that make your life that much better.

Now, isn’t that all you need to be happy and problem-free?

A deeper look into chilling out

I know, it’s not all that easy.

It’s not your fault that asshole cut you off on the road.

You got to pay the bills.

People around you annoy you.

Then check this out: Do you want to be right or do you want to be at peace?

I read that when I was skimming through some book in a book store ages ago. And it stuck.

There’s a huge fucking difference between being right and being at peace.

And only one gives you the happiness you want. 

Being right comes with a lot of unexpected nonsense, like a bitter sweet feeling or short-lived satisfaction. If you ask me, being right only gives you some kind of power over others, but not yourself. 

When you are at peace, you don’t even need to a give fuck about others. 

So, just chill out, and be at peace

Let me conclude by diving down even deeper.

Chilling out is like being in the NOW yo!

Be at peace by focusing on what’s happening at this very moment for you. Don’t think about the future because they do not exist.

Your past only exist in memories, which is like you know, not tangible.

Just look at today, which is your life. And it’s up to you to shape that shit up.

They are fucking sexy indeed!

I just had the opportunity of interviewing one of the coolest bloggers ever. It’s none other than J.Money from Budgets are Sexy.

Why he is cool:

-Got fired from his job and turned his life around and became a full-time, self-employed blogger.

This is yet another excellent guest post from the boys at KingPin Lifestyle. Check out this deep look into the writer’s journey of approaching people. Now, all of us mostly think like going into courses of approaching people probably means guys approaching chicks so that they can score more dates, and that’s all to it. Nah man. Brian totally hits the nail on the head with this journey of self-discovery and how it has benefited him for life, without looking like a total douchebag.

First course for a 16 year old on approaching people and getting rejected?! 

It’s been 4 years since my first self – development experience. At 16 years old I didn’t want anyone to know what I was on to. I felt like I had discovered a secret society. A bunch of men that were going out on a regular basis and approaching people. A concept that had been so far outside of my reality at the time that I would have never imagined myself doing the same thing within months.

I have no idea what turned me onto the idea of approaching women to be honest. I played football in High School and I was extremely good at it. I think I wanted to add another weapon to my belt. With the new skills that I was learning from the DVD sets that I purchased I felt unstoppable.

I’m 20 years old now and things are a lot different now than they were back then. One thing remains the same though. This journey never ends. It starts with meeting people for an external high than it dives deep inside of your soul on a journey to find out who you really are. Who am I today? I’m discovering that I’m not the man who I was at 16 years old, approaching women for the sake of validation. I’m so much more than that. I’m an infinite being with unlimited potential and possibility.

How Did Approaching People make me realize I am filled with potential?

Every time that I approach someone that I don’t know, I’m connecting with an external element of life that my mind has decided is a stranger. I’m including one more person in my reality. More importantly than making an external friend I’m conquering an internal comfort zone. Each internal comfort zone that I conquer I take one step closer to the man that I want to become. I realize how much is really possible when you remove the limiting beliefs that are placed on us from a young age.

Everything that you want in life is outside of your comfort zone, otherwise you would already have it. That’s why approaching people is so scary at first. These new friends that you want to make are friends that your mind has decided are strangers. “It’s impossible to walk up to that person and have them be your friend,” your mind tells you but as you consistently overcome the fear that resides inside of you you see the truth. The truth is that nothing is impossible. In fact, everything is possible. Everything is possible and all of the opportunity that you’ve ever wanted has been waiting in front of you the whole time.

You’re just too caught up inside of your thoughts to see it.

Open Your Eyes

We live in a world full of opportunity. Opportunity for anything that you want to do. At first when I was 16 years old I was interested in creating more dating options for myself. I approached people with the intention of grabbing phone numbers and getting dates. What a wild ride that was. I couldn’t go to the bar at 16 so I found myself at the mall 5 times per week for two hours a day. I appreciate each time that I took myself to the mall. It was something that I didn’t want to do every time that I went but as soon as I got there things changed. I became a different person. I was a person who wasn’t limited by the same chains that each of these people put on their minds. Each of these people that I walked past in the mall had this pre – conceived idea that it was impossible to walk up to someone you didn’t know and make a friend.

I was free.

This world is full of opportunity waiting for you to take it. All you have to do is be willing to open your eyes and take the plunge. In 4 years I can tell you that approaching people never gets easy. There’s never a day when I go out and go “Man, I’m so excited to go out and approach people and give them a chance to reject me!” It’s never fun going into it, but the rush that I feel coming out of it is a completely different feeling. I feel connected. I feel powerful. I feel limitless.

The one thing that I’ve learned and that you can take from this journal entry is that you must keep moving forward. No matter what step you’re currently at you must keep moving forward. Just found out about the idea of approaching people? Go out there and walk up to a stranger for the first time. Have you been digging your nose into self – help books for a year? It’s time for you to take a risk. Have you been meeting people for the past year? It’s time to develop a long – lasting relationship. No matter what step you’re at you must keep moving forward, and that requires you to take a risk.

It’s Your Turn

Welcome to Social Dynamics. Built off of relationship development Social Dynamics is the study of how you can optimize your life using people to propel you to where you want to go. I look around at network marketing businesses, major corporations and even local businesses and I have to laugh. Even they’re catching on that it’s not about what you know, it’s about who you know. Social Dynamics is the study of how you can live an optimal lifestyle using a network you create by learning the social skills necessesary to be your own CEO.

How do you get started? By shooting me an email at brian@kingpinlifestyle.com, or shooting Alden Tan an email here. The two fundamentals of Social Dynamics are Assertiveness and Awareness. This blog of Alden Tan’s is here to raise your Awareness of how to get started with Social Dynamics. When it comes to Assertiveness? Well, shoot us an email for the first step.