Why I don’t believe in marrying your first love or at a young age

 You know, I get asked a lot:

“Alden, why aren’t you planning your marriage already?”

“Hey man, why do you wanna be single and date so many girls?” (When I was single a couple of years ago).

“Dude, why are you such a player? You’ll never find true love.”

And other bullshit.

Now check out this disturbing story about a friend of mine-

I know a guy who’s engaged to his high school sweet heart.

You know the typical fairy tale stuff.

They met when they were 17. They fell in love and have been together ever since.

And the thing is, I’ve seen him drunk.

They say that alcohol releases one’s inhibitions. Drunk self, sober thoughts.

He said shit like, “Why is it I only have one girlfriend?”

“I wonder what my life would be like if I didn’t meet her.”

“Damn, my prime time is over. I wasted my young adult life.”

And you JUST KNOW he’s always thinking about other girls or stealthily stealing a glance at other pretty girls.

This to me is extremely dangerous.

This is the formula that leads to infidelity; cheating on your partner.

It always starts off small.

First, you may “only” be checking out another person.

Then, you’re “only” texting.

Then, you’re “only doing a little harmless flirting.”

Then, you’re “only” going out for a simple lunch.

Then it snowballs down to something awful.

That leads to infidelity. That leads to pain. That leads to ugly breakups and even divorce.

So why was it that I chose to be single for a long while back then?

Because I think it’s extremely dangerous to be in a relationship where you’re constantly wondering if the grass is greener on the other side.

Divorce is very real man.

People think that marriage is the end-result, that it’s a “happily ever after” conclusion.


Shit happens after that. Anything can happen.

Heck, my mom and dad were in love, but my dad was struck by an incurable disease and he passed on, just like that. How is that considered a happily ever after?

You know what I mean?

I think we all owe it to ourselves AND others to give yourself the love you deserve. If you rush into a relationship, bad things can happen.

You owe it to yourself to be happy. You shouldn’t hurt others too. Deceiving others intentionally is bad. Hiding your feelings… is also bad.

Don’t stick to a relationship out of comfort man. The right one will come!

And if you know you’re in a toxic relationship, have the courage to break away. Breakups hurt, but you’ll be fine!

So I’m showing you these to help you out today: <— For the ladies <— For the dudes

Don’t worry. These aren’t sleazy stuff.

I’ve so many readers emailing me telling me about how they just go out of a relationship or that they had to divorce their partner after a long time.

That’s not the end result you want.

I think whoever you are, single or divorced, you absolutely have the power and choice to live a happy life.

Don’t let a toxic partner drag you down man. You should be happy with your relationships. Ladies… and gentlemen.

Let me know if I can help with anything.

P.S. I’ll give you my new book, 100 Things if you can the courses above through my link.

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