This is a call out. It’s not going to be pretty. It’s going to be controversial. And it’s going to piss a lot of people off.
I write all of this not out of anger. I write this out of observation, and in my style.
This is what I think about all of you “life coaches”, “gurus”, “lifestyle designers” and even mere entrepreneurs:
I think most of you are full of shit.
You, who claim that you’ve reached a point in life where you’re never pissed off, sad or upset. I think you’re filled with denial. There’s absolutely no way any human can’t feel any form of negative emotions.
Yes, there’re indeed people out there who claim they don’t get sad, angry or upset, mostly because they’ve started meditating, using the law of attraction or whatever. What they actually need, in my opinion, is a doctor.
You, who claim that “money is not everything”, yet your products are expensive as fuck.
Yes, there’re many entrepreneurs out there, having hit success and enjoying the high life, are always willingly teaching that money is not everything and you should never aim for it. Well duh. If I’m raking in five figures every month and sipping champagne on my yacht, I’d be more than comfortable to teach on the non-monetary aspects of entrepreneurship and how doing so would cosmically aligned me for… what else? More fucking money.
You, who willingly show off some screenshot of a testimonial from some satisfied customer and saying, “This is what keeps me going. I love inspiring people [smiley face]”. Go eat a dick. You’ve outsourced all your content. You don’t even do your own writing, speaking, drawing or whatever.
Yes, there’re bloggers out there who are only focused on creating their business infrastructure, so much so they don’t get down and dirty with real content; real art. To me, it’s outright hypocrisy that you dare to take credit when you aren’t the one creating the art.
You, who want to teach people how to make money fast because you’ve done the same, and then claim it’s easy. Well, please tell me, how much money did you actually use up in advertising? How much of that money is profit and NOT revenue? Please shove that PayPal screenshot up your ass.
Yes, as above. There’re entrepreneurs who claim they don’t struggle in their business.
You, who claim that your coaching session, seminar, book or whatever can “change” people’s life “forever”. You must be a god, for you’re so fucking powerful you can solve everybody’s problems that easily.
Yes, there’re people out there who claim they can change your life and solve all your problems that easily and quickly. More often than not, they’re just going to teach you aspects of finding purpose and passion in life… at a price of course.
You, who claim to be super helpful and spreading positivity, when you’re all choked up with your NLP bullshit and tactics, ready to use them on weak-minded people, all under the guise of being helpful and spreading positivity.
Yes… I met this asshole online once. He wanted to help me. He basically took a look at my blog and criticised me to no end. Then he fed me shit like, “I don’t normally do this for anyone, but for you I will” and “You’re lucky now cause I’m on my break [SMILEY FACE]”. What an asshole.
You… oh whatever. Fuck it. I’m already rambling.
Hey I’m not mad… well maybe a little.
I’m just being honest. And that’s what we need more nowadays: Real, fucking, no-holds-barred honesty.
I recently read Choose Yourself by James Altucher, one of my favourite writers out there. And this quote stood out:
“The only people I know who claim they sleep three hours a day and still have a ton of energy are 100 percent bipolar. No joke.”
By the by, please get some fucking sleep. Don’t be reeled in by the idea of hustlers out there who claim to love working super hard and that sleep is a waste of time. Don’t sleep, and you WILL die a lot earlier.
The self-help world has been too intertwined with entrepreneurship that simple ideas of positivity and honesty have been tainted. It’s hard to tell what is real or truly helpful anymore. Money has made it hard. I mean… if you paid a few fucking thousand for some course or product to supposedly better yourself, I’m willing to bet you only want to think the course really did help you out because you don’t want to think you’ve wasted your money.
Today, there is now a fine line between real positivity, real, good people and what’s actually full of fucking nonsense. And it’s ironic because they’re all supposed to help you.
This is my letter of honesty to you:
I don’t consider myself part of the self-help world.
I’m only a writer who happens to want to write about some helpful stuff to inspire you. Why? Because I know what real pain is since my dad died. And I’m not going to go down the self-destructive path by taking it out on the world.
However… here’s the kicker: I don’t give a fuck what you do after you read my shit.
You can use it to inspire yourself and become better. That’s cool. But you can also not become better for all I care. And that is not my problem.
I personally believe that everybody has to make their own mistakes in their own journey of self-growth. I use the term “mistakes” loosely. The “mistakes” are probably timed perfectly for your perfect journey anyway, that is, if you’re indeed serious of making your life better.
What you read on my blog, heck, what you read everywhere are just GUIDES. They’re not going to change your life instantly or solve all your damn problems. You need to get out there make life happen for yourself. But yes, an extra edge or boost are always cool.
So read all you like, but take what you want, and reject everything else.
Now, please be extremely wary.
Be wary of the fakes out there.
But be wary for the real ones out there.
There’re many amazing people out there who’re willing to help. A lot of them have helped me. A lot of them are also slightly intertwined with the ideas above, but they are not bad people. They gotta do what they gotta do. And I respect that, because I know their heart is in the right place.
Everyone else can fuck off.