I was just thinking about how I’m such a petty person. Stick with me, this awesome hammerhead worm accentuates my point.
Yep. I kind of am. And I’m super proud of it.
You see, my friends know me for the guy who doesn’t take shit from anybody; the guy who doesn’t change his values for the sake of others or for the group.
In practice, my friends HAVE to follow my “rules”, otherwise they know I’d be pissed off. I’m like that, even at 28.
My friends know that I will never hang out in a group setting when there’s someone there I don’t like, or someone I do not respect and think he or she is toxic.
As a result, I’ve skipped a total of nearly five weddings this year. All because there’s one idiot there I don’t like.
Okay, go ahead. Go ahead and just say it. “Alden wtf?! You’re so immature! Grow up!”
Call me whatever you want. I don’t care. It doesn’t affect.
Now here’s the thing. You want to know why I act like that?
It’s largely cause of my dad’s death. I was a lot angrier before he died. I would go for all sorts of gatherings even though I don’t like the people there. I’d put on a front and start being friendly and act as if I give a shit about them.
That tore me up inside. That made me pissed with myself.
So after my dad died, I decided that enough was enough. No more hypocrisy. I’m going to do whatever want and take pride in how different I’m as a 28 year old dude.
And that’s today’s lesson: Taking pride in your being different, even if it means others would disagree with you.
So what if my friends or others think I’m immature? I’m the guy who dares to hold my ground and stand up for what I believe in.
So what if I miss out “important” stuff like weddings? You’re talking to the guy whose dad died. Weddings are not important to me any more. Sides, if I don’t go, I save a ton of money.
You see where I’m going with this shit?!
Do you ever feel different? GOOD.
Being different is awesome. It means you stand out and you stand up for your own beliefs. It means you belong to a different and more awesome breed. It means you dare to take the road less travelled. It means you see a problem in the traditional way of life and you refuse to take any shit from that.
It means you’re very self-aware about how you feel and what you believe in. And knowledge is power 🙂
So any time you feel different, recognize what a great thing that is. Ignore what others have to say about it. Take pride in what you stand for, and fuck the rest. You don’t ever have to feel left out. Be the awesome hammerhead worm and fuck shit up!
Today, everytime I feel like I have to deal with bullshit or feel a little different, I just tell myself, “I’m the guy whose dad died. I don’t expect others to understand that. If they want to judge, then it’s their problem, not mine.”
Then I continue being fucking awesome.
Hope this post helps today. That’s your 5th December #dontgiveafuck lesson.
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