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An ultra-intense weekend of winning and losing

Hey guys,

I literally wasn’t around at all this whole weekend. I neglected the blog. I didn’t check much of my emails and I even started sleeping earlier like a normal human, which is quite a big thing for me since I’m usually awake when others are asleep.

The reason for that is I had a really intense weekend which knocked me out. I was looking forward to the weekend a hell lot, and it was worth it.

You see, I took part in two competitions which ran consecutively over the weekend.

It was something of great effort to me, part of my drive to just let it go so I can improve in Bboying.

Since last year I made it a point to keep joining competitions to get over my fear of performing. I was always nervous in battles, still am somewhat, but I knew I had to get over that. I mean, why be nervous my whole life?

First day: 

I joined the 1v1 category. I won a couple of rounds!

And that meant a hell lot to me.

You see, that was the first time in my entire life I won a real battle. Took me 10 years for that, thanks to a lot of excuses I made up in my younger days.

And not having a win under my belt haunted me for a long while.

I always felt inferior to my friends, who were either my age or younger, and already winning competitions and able to let loose on stage.

And feeling like an inferior being was just stifling as hell.

Second day:

I took part in the Singapore Red Bull Bc One Cipher.

I had zero expectations for this as I knew the competition was stronger.

I didn’t make it through the qualifying round at all.

But it was all good! I had so much fun! The dance floor was intense! I got elbowed in the face LOL. I drank like five cans of Red Bull and the subsequent drop in sugar levels made me sleep at Starbucks later on. Most importantly, a couple of my good friends were there together with me too. 

Oh I got a free cap too.

Great weekend indeed.

I had both a win and a loss.

Which brings me to one the best lessons I learnt in life, and which spurs me on to keep joining competitions:

Whether you win or lose in life, you always bring something home

Day 1: I won a couple of battles. I’m happy that I made a step, like finally.

Day 2: I lost, but I learnt a shit load from talking to the judges.

In fact, it is by losing that I think you’ll learn and reflect the most. Remember, failure is your greatest ally.

It’s just best to have zero expectations, so you can go with it, do what you love and aim for what you want. And you can definitely get what you want whether you win or lose.

Guest post at Ryze

The article is called: A B-Boy’s Confession: When You Suck At Your Passion

The post pretty much captures what I’m trying to say and my entire journey as a Bboy so far.

Check it, how I feel and all when I suck. How do YOU feel when you think you suck?

I give reason and purpose, even if you think and suck.

Hope y’all had a good weekend too.

Peace.

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8 comments

  1. David - June 5, 2012 12:55 pm

    Alden,

    Think about this, there are hundreds, maybe thousands of things we do now that we really sucked at first. Simple shit like tying our shoes, hell walking, but we didn’t give up. We kept trying until we got it right. Now we do not one, but several of those things, all at once. Ease up on the fact that when you’re Bboying you are competing and focus on YOU getting better at your craft. When you do that, one day you will find that you have mastered it, and the wins will follow. Focus on the craft and NOT the winning, you WILL get there I promise!

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    • alden - June 5, 2012 3:53 pm

      I love how you put it David. That’s breaking life down for all of us!

      Yes I’m indeed trying to do that. To simply enjoy the music, after all, it is a dance. That’s when I feel best, rather than constantly griping over a certain move or stunt.

      It can be frustrating though haha.

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  2. Jason "J-Ryze" Fonceca - June 6, 2012 9:49 am

    Alllllden!

    Dude! You said something deep that I swear by:

    “Win or lose, it’s always awesome.”

    AND you made it a tweetable! So nice to see.

    Clearly you get better every day at bboying, blogging, and being you. F*** yes man.

    And thanks for the heads up to Ryze, so blessed to have you, man.

    P.S. Maybe you’ve inspired a post on “sleep”, courtesy of me 😛

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    • alden - June 6, 2012 8:58 pm

      Yo man!

      I learnt the idea of bringing something home after losing like 5 years back. I was just so inspired by other Bboys who go all out to battle, losing and then returning stronger than ever.

      It’s a blessing to have known YOU man.

      Haha what? sleep? I am lost here lol.

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  3. Adrienne - June 8, 2012 6:01 pm

    Well congratulations Alden for participating. I bet I’m about 30 years older then you and I’ve still got a couple of fears I’ve yet to overcome. One of them I’ll be battling later this month and I’m not sure when I’ll take on the other one. But, I will eventually and just move through it because it’s something I just HAVE to do.

    Like you said, win or lose you always bring something home… I think the experience itself is what brings us out of our shells and into a new phase so to speak.

    Thanks for being brave and sharing this with us. Congratulations again for taking those steps. I applaud you!

    ~Adrienne

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    • alden - June 9, 2012 6:32 am

      Hey Adrienne,

      Thanks for that!

      Haha well sometimes it doesn’t sound as glamorous as it reads. I’ve got the jitters more often than not, but amazingly, it is through writing and blogging that has helped made me become more open.

      What fear do you’ve to battle later this month?

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  4. Thomas - June 14, 2012 1:46 pm

    Keep on battling, bro!

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    • alden - June 15, 2012 2:56 am

      Thanks Thomas

      Reply

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