About Me


This is Alden Tan! And welcome to Making Your Life Better Without Stupid Advice.

It is what it is. This is the blog where you get to be super fucking inspired by my shit, without stupid advice.

My story

My name is Alden Tan as I’m writing this now, I am a 30 year-old dude from Singapore.

Straight up, the big WHY behind everything I do today is that my dad died when I was 20, exactly a decade ago.

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He had ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), a very fucked up disease that’s up there with cancer. Whoever gets it is issued a death sentence on the spot.

Of course, from there on, I’ve had my life lessons.

I’ve grown from a really angry, confused kid to the person I am today. And indeed, this blog is the result of the whole “quit my job to follow a dream” thing. It has been five years in the making and in evolution!

But here’s the thing…

I fucking hate self-help and the personal development world.

I think it’s filled with way too many cliches, self-proclaimed ‘experts’ who don’t know shit, expensive but worthless crap and, you know what grinds my gears the most? Fucking “life coaches” who are actually nothing but annoying kids who just graduated from college, and then they are pretentious enough to say that they can teach you about life.

I mean seriously, you don’t need anymore dumb articles like “Top 10 ways to get out of your comfort zone”, “Why you need passion” and anything to do with meditation, tapping into the universe, aligning your chakras or whatever!

It’s life! Let’s just chill! Let’s grab a beer and look at some hot girls.

I love to write. And I just so happen to want to help people because I know what real pain is. I will churn out nothing but honest and real stories for you. From there, you can take it or leave it. It’s your life. I am not your father.

Plus yeah. I can be quite an asshole I guess, depending on how you see it. My stories have zero bullshit and are very in your face. It’s also obviously littered with profanities. If that offends you, I strongly suggest you fuck off now.

If however, you choose to stick around, I promise that I can help you or at the very least, gain a new perspective on life so you can be way happier than you are now. My knowledge extends over:

  • Dating and relationships
  • Anxiety, shyness and social dynamics
  • Fitness
  • Confidence and motivation (in a superbly no-excuses tone)
  • Writing and blogging
  • General awesomeness and inspiration

Also, I’m a Bboy (Breakdancer.) Expect my stories to stretch over this passion of mine.


My life as a Bboy (breakdancer)

Yes, this is my biggest passion in life. I love it and I think about it 24/7.

I really don’t want to go into another typical tirade on passion where I encourage you to follow your heart and all that.

That’s too normal and easy.

I can however, say that passion is a form of identity for you. And when you get that identity, it’s good enough. You’re set for life.

Take me for example: I’m 30 year-old Bboy today.

And it’s not like I am winning first place trophies or a celebrity in the scene.

But that’s okay.

The reason why I still love this art form so much is that I am identified as a Bboy by the people around me.

As a 30 year-old in Singapore, I am expected to have a lucrative job, make tons of money, have a nice car, settle down with some girl and prepare for marriage and a family.

I have NONE of those now, and I don’t give a fuck.

The way I see it, money can go up or down anytime, jobs are everywhere and well, a marriage can die any day, for people change all the time.

But when I get down on the floor, feel the music, create movements and simply dance, I know it’s with me forever.

Nothing can take that away.

That is why I love it and that is how I think passion should exist.

Again, it’s identity. As long as people say, “Hey that’s Alden! He’s the Bboy!”, I know I am doing something right.

Ready to rock your life without stupid advice!? Let’s go baby!

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  1. Jacy Wee - August 23, 2011 12:15 am

    Thank you for sharing your blog. I love your authenticity in expressing who you are — I can almost hear you talking :). Felt your essence when sharing about your dad and would love to hear more of it, what happened, what did you learn from the experience, what’s your call to action to those reading your blog.

    Look forward to your next post ;p

    p.s. Awesome photos by the way… compliments to the photographer.

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  9. Chris - January 25, 2013 10:37 am

    Dude, you are amazing. Thanks for creating this wonderful blog. It truly is inspiring. I’m a bboy too and I want to be a writer! I have a lot of interests in life but most of all is bboying. I’m not a religious person I just happen to have a personal relationship with my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. I don’t know if you believe in Him or not and I’m not forcing you to believe if you don’t cause we all have the freedom of choice. But I pray for you to be saved and one day that maybe you would have Him, Jesus Christ, in your life. Anyway, man keep being real, being you, keep this up. Don’t stop your passion and dreams in life man. You inspire me and all the people who come across your site. It’d be cool to meet you someday bro. A fellow bboy. Much love and peace!

    • alden - January 25, 2013 5:20 pm

      Peace man! Gonna reply your email in full soon.

      Thanks for the heads up :). Keep breaking man!

  10. Marissa - February 28, 2013 3:41 pm

    I wasn’t planning on signing up for your blog b/c frankly I’m on too many lists already BUT after reading why you do this I am board. I lost my 18-year old sister in 1998 and my 33-year old brother in 2008 — both suddenly. Yeah — it knocked me down, but I got up and dusted myself off. You’ve got to live your dreams and I am making it my mission to help others do it too.

    I love your message!

    • alden - March 1, 2013 2:12 am

      Glad you did then!

      So sorry you had to go through all of that.

      Good on you for not going in the dark, and instead making something positive out of it. And truly… I can’t imagine my own life knowing I lost more than ONE loved one.

  11. Siegfried - February 28, 2013 6:25 pm

    Hello Alden!
    your thoughts are really interesting, great blog!
    Best Regards!

    • alden - March 1, 2013 2:10 am

      Thanks man! Glad to see you here.

  12. Inspiring Citizen Rafi - March 6, 2013 4:56 pm

    Hello Alden,

    I believe, you are the rite person whom I was looking forward to talk with because your message is exactly what I have been trying to strive for..

    See my passion is to travel the world, talk to people and inspire them through my training and motivational speaking..

    Since I am the bread winner of my family and since I dont have any financial back-up I am in a state of confusion whether to leave my job or not..What will be your advise in this stage?

    • alden - March 9, 2013 5:35 am

      Hey man,

      Well I say, take tiny steps towards what you love. Don’t just go all in now as you have responsibilities towards yourself and others.

      The key is real tiny steps.

  13. Susanna Brown - March 21, 2013 4:34 am

    Hi Alden,

    I lost my dad from cancer and I never forgive. The pain and anger was too much to bear when he was alive.

    I forgive him only after all this years which I am not proud of.

    Your blog really connects with me. Thank you so much.

    • alden - March 21, 2013 4:57 am

      Sorry to hear that, but great you’ve moved on.

      See you around.

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  15. Tamilyn - April 9, 2013 7:16 pm

    your sir .. are just what i needed today .. 🙂 keep it up i will be back often 🙂 love and hugs


    • alden - April 11, 2013 8:58 am

      Why thank you. Hugs.

  16. jasz - April 11, 2013 8:16 am

    I may not like your being vulgar,
    because it feels violent to me
    and that scares me.
    I know there is a loving heart behind it though,
    so I want to stick around anyway.

    • alden - April 11, 2013 8:57 am

      Cool. Open up a little. There’re worse out there suffering.

  17. Sarah Li Cain - May 13, 2013 3:05 am

    Wow! I am instantly hooked! I am trying to get my baddassery or gusto again after losing it over the years and this blog really made my day. I’m officially a regular reader!

    • alden - May 13, 2013 4:58 am

      Thanks Sarah. Glad to have you here.

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  19. Dawn - July 18, 2013 5:17 pm

    I love your way of thinking. I feel the same. Just have to throw up your hands up and say *&%^ it. I lost my father back in 1992. One night I was talking to him on the phone and the next day the next thing I knew he was dead from being shot to death. My world changed and after years of depression and grief my tolerance level to stupid stuff was very low. I continue to speak up for myself and avoid or stop interference from untruths about me that interfere with my life. I have been reading many self help books and I have found a new me that can heal from being hurt and see like you that all there is is LIFE. Live it to the fullest and be happy being yourself. Thanks for your blog. This is the first time I have every replied.

    • alden - August 4, 2013 8:47 pm

      We’re the same then.

      I don’t bother with fucked up people and friends anymore. I just walk man. And live the life I want.

  20. Fiona Tay - July 21, 2013 3:08 am

    Not keep it real like, “Yo yo daddyo check out ma blog ma crib yo”.Hahahaha! That’s really funny, Alden! I like to read your posts! Keep them coming! :))I like “opened up” posts. Real. Original. True.

    • alden - August 4, 2013 8:45 pm

      Thanks so much Fiona!

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  22. Jake Smith - October 28, 2013 7:57 am

    Hey Alden

    Today I’m looking for inspiration and motivation, actually I’m struggling with writers block. Perhaps I’m too old (62) for your blog but I find it very interesting to see what people are up to out there.

    I will soon have my own blog out there where you can get to know me better.

    I am a semi-retired Instrumentation Engineer with a passion for writing, motivational stuff without losing sight of reality. Be practical.

    I believe one must do what you are born to do and passionate about.

    If I can help one person to be successful in life then I have succeeded in my quest.

    Life doesn’t come with a money-back guarantee. Believe in yourself. Love yourself. You are what you thinketh.

    The only person who will be with you all your life through thick and thin is you yourself. So … it may be a good idea to become best friends with yourself.

    Go for it buddy!

    Jake (The Wizard) Smith
    Author: ‘Out on parole …’

    P.S. I’ve never been in jail but often jailed in my mind … through my thoughts and the choices and decisions I made.

  23. Navin Joelle - November 4, 2013 10:45 am

    Hi Alden, pretty impressive blog I must say. Will be following this site from now on. Take care bro, hope to catch up with you in real time.

    • alden - November 5, 2013 3:40 am

      Thanks dude.

  24. frdz - December 1, 2013 7:55 am

    Hey alden.,wassup bro?.i just want to say thanks for ur helping me to overcome allwgats holding me back,just by saying ur magic word,.fuck it-hehe,and bcoz im conpervative,i change d word a bit and becomes pak it! Haha.,but really bro,it helpd me a lot.,thanks to you!

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  26. Deb - February 21, 2014 7:50 pm

    You have some great messages…too bad you mess things up with all those 4-letter words…seriously DUDE take a pill or something and calm down and people will truly enjoy what you have to say…just a thought…take it or leave it…something to think about…great things come from great thinkers and great people not foul mouth idiots carrying big clubs

    • alden - February 21, 2014 11:26 pm

      Strange. Others call it authenticity and they love it. Does that make you the different cave woman or something?

  27. ceejay - March 8, 2014 3:43 pm

    I think i like your raw quality of being yourself and not people pleasing. Doing your thing to express your real self. That resonates with me. Keep it up, man!

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