This is Alden Tan! And welcome to Making Your Life Better Without Stupid Advice.
It is what it is. This is the blog where you get to be super fucking inspired by my shit, without stupid advice.
My name is Alden Tan as I’m writing this now, I am a 31 year-old dude from Singapore.
Straight up, the big WHY behind everything I do today is that my dad died when I was 20, exactly a decade ago.
He had ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), a very fucked up disease that’s up there with cancer. Whoever gets it is issued a death sentence on the spot.
Of course, from there on, I’ve had my life lessons. You can read more about it here.
I’ve grown from a really angry, confused kid to the person I am today. And indeed, this blog is the result of the whole “quit my job to follow a dream” thing. It has been five years in the making and in evolution!
But here’s the thing…
I fucking hate self-help and the personal development world.
I think it’s filled with way too many cliches, self-proclaimed ‘experts’ who don’t know shit, expensive but worthless crap and, you know what grinds my gears the most? Fucking “life coaches” who are actually nothing but annoying kids who just graduated from college, and then they are pretentious enough to say that they can teach you about life.
I mean seriously, you don’t need anymore dumb articles like “Top 10 ways to get out of your comfort zone”, “Why you need passion” and anything to do with meditation, tapping into the universe, aligning your chakras or whatever!
It’s life! Let’s just chill! Let’s grab a beer, eat pizza and look at some hot girls.
I love to write. And I just so happen to want to help people because I know what real pain is. I will churn out nothing but honest and real stories for you. From there, you can take it or leave it. It’s your life. I am not your father.
Plus yeah. I can be quite an asshole I guess, depending on how you see it. My stories have zero bullshit and are very in your face. It’s also obviously littered with profanities. If that offends you, I strongly suggest you get the fuck out of here now.
If however, you choose to stick around, I promise that I can help you or at the very least, gain a new perspective on life so you can be way happier than you are now. My writing extends over:
- Dating and relationships
- Anxiety, shyness and social dynamics
- Confidence and motivation (in a superbly no-excuses tone)
- Writing and blogging
- General awesomeness and inspiration
Also, I’m a Bboy (Breakdancer.) Expect my stories to stretch over this passion of mine.
My life as a Bboy (breakdancer)
Yes, this is my biggest passion in life. I love it and I think about it 24/7.
I really don’t want to go into another typical tirade on passion where I encourage you to follow your heart and all that.
That’s too normal and easy.
I can however, say that passion is a form of identity for you. And when you get that identity, it’s good enough. You’re set for life.
Take me for example: I’m 31 year-old Bboy today.
And it’s not like I am winning first place trophies or a celebrity in the scene.
But that’s okay.
The reason why I still love this art form so much is that I am identified as a Bboy by the people around me.
As a 30 year-old in Singapore, I am expected to have a lucrative job, make tons of money, have a nice car, settle down with some girl and prepare for marriage and a family.
I have NONE of those now, and I don’t give a fuck.
The way I see it, money can go up or down anytime, jobs are everywhere and well, a marriage can die any day, for people change all the time.
But when I get down on the floor, feel the music, create movements and simply dance, I know it’s with me forever.
Nothing can take that away.
That is why I love it and that is how I think passion should exist.
Again, it’s identity. As long as people say, “Hey that’s Alden! He’s the Bboy!”, I know I am doing something right.
My life as a writer
I love to write. I am sure you’ve read about that from any writer out there, but I like to think that I am different from the bunch of annoying bloggers out there who write about stupid shit.
This is strongly related to why I hate the personal development/self-help world.
I started out as a… ugh, “blogger” and “internet marketer.” Yeah, I was that naive little kid who thought I could write from home, apply quick, money-making tactics and then become rich. I would become my own boss and all!
But it wasn’t easy. Nothing in life comes easy. I honestly did however, did well before online. I made good money, but deep down, I didn’t believe in it.
I was applying scammy shit just to make money, you know, fake scarcities, fake refunds, sales letters that promise the world and all that crap! I hated it.
That said, I firmly believe that in life, you gotta have feeling in what you do in every step of the way. THAT is real passion. Passion isn’t a cliched drivel about how you quit your job to do what you love and oh my god, this shit is so common. There’re so many entrepreneurs and writers out there who claim to be passionate when they’re just in for the money. That pisses me off.
Anyway, I’ve stopped doing that shit. I write about what I want now. And it’s good you know? All the reflection and struggle over the last few years have brought me back to my core as a writer, which is that I love to create stories. Yup. Fiction.
I am an aspiring movie writer today. I am writing scripts at the side. Hollywood baby. That’s the goal! Jake Gyllenhaal is gonna be my star! You may find my Stage32 profile here.
I still however, write about personal development, but I pretty much ignore all the rules. I don’t enjoy writing top 10 bullshit or typical crap. As said, I’ve evolved and changed. If you browse through my archives, you will see that I wrote about things that are contradictory to what I believe in today. So take it with a pinch of salt. If it does help you, good on you though.
So enjoy! I hope you like what you see here. If you don’t, I don’t care.
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