A caveat of sorts:
The onus is entirely on you.
At the end of the day you can’t really blame these successful people, for you could be too vulnerable to a fault.
That’s the folly of most newbies today.
They’re so eager to learn and gain success quickly that they believe everything successful people say.
It’s okay. We’ve all been there. I’ve been there.
You have no idea how much time and money I’ve spent looking up to a bunch of coaches, getting some program or whatever that was suppose to help me gain success.
But for sure, it really doesn’t help that these successful people are never fully transparent or honest about it.
They think that with their success, everything they say is helpful, when it’s not.
Here we go.
1) Network and connect with others so you can benefit from that one person
It annoys me when successful people attribute their success to that one single client or friend.
They’re like, “All I did was email him/her. It took me 5 minutes only. And look! I made so much money! This is the key to business success! Networking!”
The truth: Indeed. Connecting with the right person can make or break your business down the line.
I’ve experienced it myself. All I did was write an email to somebody. We then chatted on Skype. We got along really well. She passed on a lot of her business to me. I’m truly thankful.
But yo, this isn’t how networking or connecting with others is like.
You don’t connect with others for the hope of making that one serendipitous friendship. You don’t do it in hopes of making a ton of money from one person.
Life doesn’t work that way. This is banking on pure luck.
If you want to connect with others, then do it consistently and on a sincere level.
You can’t back down just because your first attempt was met with a one-liner or even got you ignored.
Just keep doing it. Treat it as like making friends from all over. Eventually, you’d be able to vibe with someone who’d be there for you in the long run.
2) That little piece of extra advice that doesn’t fit together with the rest
For example, I am a fit a person. I work out a lot and I’ve a nice body.
All I do is go for runs and do a lot of chin-ups and push-ups. I never go to the gym.
Now let’s say somebody interviews me and ask me about my fitness regime.
In my ego-filled dialogue, I could simply add in for good measure, “Oh, yeah going to a gym would help too!”
A unfit person could perceive it as, “Since Alden said going to the gym would help, I ought to go to the gym then!”
See how it’s pretty much misleading people? And no one would be the wiser. Technically, I am not even lying.
The truth: A lot of advice from successful people may not be something they actually use themselves.
Or, they could even be lying just so they can appear like they’ve a lot to say.
Note that they’re also under pressure to keep dishing out content. They may be doing it for the sake of keeping up rather than caring that it may actually help you for real.
Do your research and find out more about them. Don’t accept everything they say. It may sound good, but if they aren’t even using it, why should you?
Also, you actually don’t need that many methods to get your business to work for you.
You just need one.
Your job is find out what works for you then. So if something already works for you, just stick to it.
3) “Do this and it will work. Guaranteed. It worked for me and therefore it will work for you.”
The truth: There’re no guarantees in life. The only guarantee in life is death itself.
I know that sounds dramatic, but it’s true.
You can’t follow or emulate some successful person forever.
Their path is their own. You need to make your own, otherwise you’d always be in their shadow.
Also, business success comes from finding out what works for you from a full experience, something successful people already went through.
No matter how well they teach you, they’ll never be able to cover everything, for it is life itself. They’ll always miss out some subtleties.
E.g. Let’s say you’re the one teaching somebody something.
How often has it crossed your mind, “Oh I can leave out that part. That should save them a lot of trouble”?
But have you ever thought that it is through this little trouble alone that’d make them learn the most important lesson? That it is from that particular experience that would make or break the business?
It’s all in the subtleties.
You can learn all you like, but you need to apply to find out what works for you, your own way then. Also, ignore others when they start to tell you it’s wrong or that it didn’t apply to them.
4) Anything to do with the “best friend” connection
I remember reading some social media book by some supposedly successful guy.
In one chapter, he literally mentioned how his best friend was the CEO of some big company and that it helped him gain success and make a ton of money.
He even then wrote something along the lines of, “Can you believe it?! This is the power of social media!”
I immediately stopped reading.
It fucking irks me when these successful people talk about how it’s so easy when actually they were lucky enough to have some friend give them a handout.
It’s like some hot girl telling others to start travelling the world when she actually has a rich boyfriend paying for everything.
The truth: You must be dreaming if you think business success is all about relying on your best friends.
Business isn’t high school.
If your other business friends are willing to help out, then good for you, but never be waylaid into thinking that business is all about that.
Anything can happen.
So connect with others consistently on a sincere level. Make new friends. And continue to do the work your own way so you don’t actually have to rely on others all the time.
I personally don’t think it’s a real business if your entire foundation is reliant on one person or client.
If they decide to up and leave one day, you’re dead.
5) Anything to do with quick results
The truth: There is no such thing as overnight success.
Successful people today struggle and go through a whole lot to get to where they are today. You’re just not reading about it.
Also, some successful people teach about their methods but hide the fact that they pumped in a shit ton of advertising money behind the scenes.
What you need to do is to be slow and steady in your own way. That makes for real consistency. Do the work everyday and one day, you’d have created something big.
Oh and even if you had the luck of say, going viral, your next challenge is to find out how to reproduce it. Just because you got quick and great results once doesn’t mean you’ve found something that works all the time.
6) Pretty much everything they say when they’re in the business of teaching how to create businesses or how to make money
This is when you ask them what they do for a living and they merely reply, “Oh I teach people how to create a business” or “Oh I make my money by teaching people how to make money.”
The truth: Think about it…
If it works so well, why the hell would you teach?
They’re not selling you anything real. They’re selling a system.
It’s a paradox that borders on being a pyramid scheme.
And trust me, because they are already making money off you, it makes them seem like everything they do is right.
But you know what? These businesses are legit.
Apart from the scammers, there’re good people out there who do want to help you start a successful business.
However, you must know that they can only bring you so far.
They’re only there to teach you the basics. The rest is up to you.
I’ve fallen prey to these systems for a long time because I chased the money.
I’ve come to realize that success is entirely up to the individual, wherein you’d walk your own unique journey.
Your business is your art; your passion.
Art can never be taught. Art can only be felt.
Go ahead and take up a course or whatever. But do it once only. Everything else is the same shit.
Then you need to do it your own way because no one else can do it for you.
7) When their advice only consists of impressive numbers and testimonials
And then they proceed to sell you something. This goes hand in hand with the previous point. It is very prevalent in that field.
The truth: They’re only fucking showing off.
And people who see the need to show off are insecure losers.
They will never have anything good for you, except when they want to appear good to you so you can buy their (worthless) shit.
Truly, if you want business success, then stop being enticed by the idea of quick and easy results.
It’s going to be tough. It’s going to take a while. And it’s going to be a struggle.
Deep down you know it. You know this shit.
Sooner or later you have to stop learning and start doing.
So just go do the work already.