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7 of the biggest fucking losers I’ve met and what you can learn from them

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This is a post about losers, for losers. Because we are all in one way or another, a fucking loser.

I don’t mean a loser as in being called one as a form of a petty insult. I mean:

A loser- One who loses out in life because he or she refuses to be honest with themselves, but instead takes it out on those around them.

And we’re all guilty of that. We’re guilty of the loser-ish behavior we indulge in from time to time as we try to fill up a void inside.

But of course, you probably aren’t that bad. You probably think you’re doing fine, like me. It’s bizarre to watch how these guys behave. I’ve met a bunch of them and because I’m so analytical, this post was made for you.

Check it.

1) The try-too-hard guy

I was once close to a guy who, despite not being a football fan at all would read up on footballs news every, single day when the World Cup was on. Why? So he could fit in with his other football-loving friends.

That is really the mark of a loser, to try too hard to fit in. I can’t imagine how stupid he must have looked as he copied and pasted whatever he read with his mouth.

Don’t be that guy: Never, ever try too hard when it comes to trying to fit in with your friends. In fact, I don’t even think fitting in should be an issue at all among your friends. If you’re having issues with fitting in, then maybe the people you’re with aren’t really your friends in the first place.

Be sincere. Be honest. Recognize that it’s okay to have your own opinions. Ask the right questions because you’re truly curious. Don’t spew garbage you don’t care for.

2) The one who asks for advice, but can’t accept the truth

One thing that really fucking grinds my gears is when a friend asks me for advice and when I tell them the cold, hard truth, they get all defensive and shit. They start to try to turn the tables by pointing out a supposed flaw of mine, like, “What about you?! Remember the time you did that too?”

That’s pretty high on the loser chart. If you can’t accept the truth about yourself, or rather, how others view you, then you’re clearly too insecure to accept the fact that there’s something wrong with you. This is not how you improve yourself. It’s highly illogical to seek others’ opinion only to question them non-stop.

Take in the hard stuff: Because the real lessons come in hard (haha no pun intended). They will hurt, but it’s because they hurt that you’ll remember them forever.

3) The one who wanks publicly on social media

I’ve pretty biased about social media, so much so I’ve left Facebook. I think it does more damage than good, not that you’d know it anyway since you’re too fucking busy constantly checking your phone for updates.

Eyes up here!

So anyway, I’m not just referring to trolls and haters who spread hate online. I’m talking mainly about people who see a need to validate themselves on Facebook, Instagram or whatever. This is when you spot your friends posting some passive aggressive bullshit that’s vaguely alluding to somebody. Or worse, this is when you see somebody accusing others via blatant tagging.

Social media is not a place to publicly wank off: Even porn stars have more class. If you’re airing your bullshit online and expecting the specific validation you seek, then you’re just masturbating in public and shouting, “Respect me! Respect me! Respect me!”

And as a real loser would not know, nobody is respecting you.

Don’t validate yourself on social media. If you need to get something off your chest, then talk to the person face to face. Above all else, get a life and create something meaningful for yourself. [bctt tweet=”Real life experiences last forever in memories. Likes and comments die once the next big thing comes.”]

4) The one who’s all talk, but keeps quiet when they get scared

Nothing much to say here. Somebody is all talk when everything feels easy and no challenges are involved. They’re always comfortable.

It’s pretty human to be like that I guess, but it extends to loser-hood when they magically disappear or make up a ton of excuses when things get tough. It’s especially highly ranked in loser-hood when they make empty promises to others and don’t keep to their word.

If you managed to read in between the lines here, you’d know that gossip is ammo for losers.

Man the fuck up: If you want to be a winner, follow up with everything you say. Keep your promises. Have accountability and be responsible. Also, don’t cower down when you feel scared. That’s the entire point.

5) The one who for some fucking reason can never see that they’re wrong

It’s bizarre, but people like that do exist. I’ve encountered people who were clearly in the wrong, but can’t seem to see that they’re wrong. And I do mean CLEARLY in the wrong. I’m talking captured on camera, witnesses everywhere and an obvious flaw in one’s judgement.

Have some humility: If you’re wrong, just admit it. There’s nothing wrong with that. If you wronged somebody, apologize and make amends.

If you can’t or don’t want to do any of the above, you’re going to lead a really sad life.

6) Take-for-granted hero

Oh my god I can’t even begin on this fucking loser. But yeah. I’ve been guilty about it many times in my life, especially when I was young.

Having grown up, now I know how it feels like. I’ve dealt with idiotic friends, a dumb ass cousin and various colleagues.

It’s sad, but we’re all guilty here. It is more extreme though, when somebody blatantly comes to you for help when they do need help, but then acts like an asshole to you when they’re all comfortable and shit.

Treat people with respect: I don’t think I need to expand on this.

7) The one who needs strength in numbers

Oh man come on. There’s nothing wrong with being alone!

I had a friend, a fucking DUDE, who can’t ever seem to handle being alone. “Alden, please follow me to the toilet.” WHAT?

In more extreme cases, it becomes a real issue, like gang members who mistake strength, courage, honor and friendship with their numbers.

It’s okay to be alone!: I’m a little biased here since I’m pretty introverted.

But what’s wrong with being alone? Shit. Try it out yourself without asking for help. That’s how a lot of successful people are successful today. Stop feeling so insecure or anxious just because you’re by yourself. Nobody is going to think you’re a loser. They’re the losers for thinking that way.

Okay enough loser talk. I hope you liked this post.

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1 comment

  1. Frank - March 11, 2015 2:42 pm

    Good stuff, Alden. Especially the misuse of social media. I can’t stand, it myself.

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