I have anger issues. I see a therapist.
This is me getting out of my comfort zone for you. Check it.
1) Even therapists have their own therapists
Because they’re human and have their own problems too. They need to talk to someone.
Takeaway: You’re not alone. Really. For whatever emotions and negativity you feel, and even when it feels overwhelmingly strong, just know that you’re not alone. Somebody out there feels the same.
Get help. People want to help.
2) Therapy is a long-term commitment
Sorry, but therapy isn’t like in the movies where the protagonist goes through some life-changing event, decides to see a therapist (and lie down on a couch), experience some major cathartic, epiphany and is healed instantly.
Life is not a feel-good movie. Life just doesn’t work like that.
Takeaway: Therapy is a long-term commitment. Heck, working on yourself is a long-term commitment on its own. You’ve to put in consistent effort to keep improving yourself. The therapist is not God. Talk to them, and slowly work on it together.
3) You don’t immediately become better after finding your root cause
That said, finding the root cause of your problems doesn’t mean it’s an immediate cure.
It’s just an insight to help point you in the right direction.
Takeaway: Finding the root cause would greatly help, but again, you need to put in consistent effort to want to be better.
Life still happens and something is still bound to go wrong. You’re not going to be immune to that. So always be wary and put in that effort.
4) The act of talking alone is already therapy
Way too many of us in life are simply going through routine and sadly, that includes brushing aside your problems and downplaying your issues just because others are doing the same.
We talk, but we talk about needless crap. When was the last time you expressed yourself? Are you constantly bottling up your problems?
Takeaway: Just talk to someone. It doesn’t have to be a professional. A friend or family member will do. Just do it. You’ll be surprised how therapeutic it is.
5) There is an extremely specific solution catered for you and ONLY you
One of the reasons that I got so angry and frustrated often is that the solutions didn’t seem to work for me.
I’d study and do my research on anger and try out the typical solutions like meditating, going for a walk and stuff.
Then my therapist told me this: “Alden, you need to start standing up for yourself. That’s the only thing you need to do. Meditation, counting to ten, taking a walk and all that stuff will NEVER work for someone like you.”
I loved how he put it. It took a therapist for me to finally realize this.
Takeaway: Just because something works for someone else doesn’t mean that it’d work for you even though it seems generally positive.
Find your own special solution or method. Put in the effort to find it. It will be worth it. Then keep doing it.
6) There is no stigma
Some people find it embarrassing that they have to see therapist and that others may judge them.
But… screw others.
Work on yourself. That’s the key. That’s the only thing.
There’re many people who go for it anyway.
Takeaway: Sometimes, a professional helping hand is necessary. It could be the gateway to a better life and future. The act of going for therapy is probably what is required for you to really see a change.
Stop caring about what others think and focus on yourself.
Hope this helps!