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5 lessons learnt from working in a club for 5 years

I spent many years in my young adult life working in a club. It’s a very popular club which shall not be named.

There’re a ton of lessons I got to learn and it made me the man I am today.

As far as partying goes, there’s actually a lot more to it than meets the eye.

You get to see a lot. You get to study human behaviour for all it’s good and bad. I dealt with drunk idiots, douchebags, weird people, arrogant rich fucks and crazy girls.

The works!

I’ve grown a lot. Here are the lessons. Hope you can get something out of them.

1) People can be assholes and you don’t even know why

And they don’t even have to be drunk be like that.

For some reason, a lot of people out there have it in their heads that it’s okay to treat service staff badly. I guess it’s because they pay a premium.

I’ve been treated badly and unfairly, and it both angered and hurt me to know people can be like that.

As far as I’m concerned, not everyone is born equal, but we’re all still equal. We all just want to be happy. Regardless of status, the way you look or how much money you have, you gotta be nice to others.

The real lesson: Throughout your life you’re definitely going to come across people who’re just mean to you. It’s discouraging, I know. What’s more demoralizing is that you never seem to know what you do to deserve it.

But the world and its people are just like that. Don’t ever let the state of the world or others get you down.

You’d always have your passion and other unique talents ready to be unlocked within, and it’s not worth letting others get in the way of that.

2) Keeping things in perspective keeps you sane and focused

The one thing I learnt which helped me in dealing with said assholes was to keep things in perspective.

It was easy to come up with wild scenarios and judgement in your head when your emotions are heightened, like thinking, “These idiots were obviously dropped on their heads when they were babies. Their life continued to suck as their abusive parents destroyed their dreams. Hence, all they like to do is drink and party while wearing Ed Hardy”.

No. I kept it in perspective. They were not idiots, weirdos, assholes, evil people or uneducated douchebags.

They were simply difficult customers.

The real lesson: Focus! Keep it all in perspectives and don’t let your imagination go on a negative thoughts shopping-spree. Whatever challenges that lay ahead of you, concentrate on what’s ahead and see it for what it is. Do your best to deal with it. Don’t have any expectations and take what you can. Then learn from the results and grow from it.

3) What you want in life will definitely change, fast

When I started work at the club, my uniform was a suit. I thought I was the shit! People said I looked good and I had a blast working as I got to meet plenty of girls.

The life eh?

I got sick of it really fast. I was all excited at first, but pretty soon I was even surprised myself to why my awesome feelings just dissipated so quickly.

Fatigue set in after a few months. I got tired of sleeping so late all the time. Dealing with nasty customers often was extremely cumbersome too.

And no amount of alcohol, girls and loud music can fill a void.

The real lesson: You need to be open to change. Change can come any time. So instead of wondering what’s up and why you feel a certain way, just embrace it. Go forward in the unknown, take some leaps of faith and you’ll have a better version of yourself waiting.

That’s why I quit a couple of months back even though I knew it meant a dip in income.

4) Too many negative people does things to your soul

Extending from point 1, dealing with difficult customers every night was the norm. To complain about it was useless. I just had to accept it.

And it does things to you man. It really does.

The real lesson: Surrounding yourself with positive people is an active choice.

It is.

Forget about “norms” or what is expected out of you. Way too many people do things they don’t even feel like due to some half-hearted obligation.

Get out there, dump the bad people and find people who would make you grow. Hang out with them more and you’re going to become the person you’re meant to be.

5) Fun is overrated

A friend once told me, “Night life culture is wack. It’s fun only because it’s the easiest way to have fun”.

Damn straight. Alcohol, loud music, girls and friends.

It is fun, I’d admit that, but not long.

The real lesson: Don’t mistake fun for joy.

Be happy all you like, but as you change, what makes you happy also changes.

So go do something meaningful. Do that thing you always wanted. Work hard for it. Grow as a person. Get joy instead so you can always look back with no regret and look forward with great hopes and eager anticipation.

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22 comments

  1. Dean - March 6, 2013 2:05 pm

    Awesome article man.

    Couldn’t agree more about the negative people. Toxic people are the worse!

    I would rather enjoy something than have forced fun anyway too!

    P.S Liking the new art work for the revive kit bud.

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    • alden - March 9, 2013 5:36 am

      Haha toxic and negative, there’s a difference? For real man. Alcohol makes ANYTHING fun anyway :P. SO by default, a club is always fun and shouldn’t be really counted for anything.

      Thanks man.

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  2. Anthony Lee - March 6, 2013 7:59 pm

    YUP. I work in the service industry. I know all about people. Got me thinking alot about why people are like that. But, I probably shouldn’t dwell on it so much.
    Man…spot on about how what makes you happy changes. I remember LOVING working at the hot night spot, drinking, partying, having the best time.
    That gets old FAST. It wears down the body and soul. I realized I had changed when I totally stopped going out after work because I needed to wake up early to get to the gym.
    Working on yourself isn’t always fun either…but, it leads to joy down the road.
    Good work man.

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    • alden - March 9, 2013 5:34 am

      Yo man,

      I now right? I realized I changed when I dreaded going to work completely.

      I dwelled on the negative people for a while. I was younger back then, but it’s certainly tough to let it go knowing there’re such people out there.

      Best solution is just to leave the place entirely.

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  3. pawan - March 7, 2013 5:01 pm

    learned a great lesson from it, how to stay happy in odd situations

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    • alden - March 9, 2013 5:32 am

      Leave negative places. Stay away from toxic people.

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  4. Adrienne M. - March 7, 2013 5:16 pm

    I love this! (:

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  5. Frank T - March 7, 2013 5:26 pm

    What you’re saying is don’t judge, don’t take things personally, don’t assume and do your best. If we could all master that life would be dream. Great stuff, Alden. Thanks for sharing!

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    • alden - March 9, 2013 5:32 am

      It’s tough, but attainable. But don’t take life too seriously. Leave negative places, leave negative people.

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  6. joanna - March 7, 2013 5:26 pm

    Good fundamental insights, thanks

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  7. hugo - March 7, 2013 8:25 pm

    Nice Alden!

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  8. Clive - March 8, 2013 5:27 am

    Thank You so much for share in , Your wisdom and time, Alden.

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  9. Tony Lima - March 8, 2013 6:02 am

    Thanks Alden, I really appreciate your perspective. I really liked the phrase “go on a negative thoughts shopping-spree”. Pretty clever. It’s true though, when someone is a total jerk to us its easy to get carried away in your head. Some one once told me “no one can insult you with out your permission” and you definitely summarized that very well. Take care Alden.

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    • alden - March 9, 2013 5:30 am

      Hey Tony,

      Yeah man. It’s tough, but the responsibility ultimately lies in you and only you. But you can definitely give yourself an edge by avoiding such places filled with such people.

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  10. Jill - March 10, 2013 12:21 am

    Great article Alden .. one of the best I have read in a while. It’s so great also to see how much you have learned from your experiences. You are making some excellent choices that are leading you to live a healthy and productive life.

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    • alden - March 12, 2013 6:46 am

      Thanks Jill.

      Yeah for sure. But it’s a lot of hard work though! Many people miss that.

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  11. Shawn - March 15, 2013 3:20 am

    Great article! I agree that there are a lot of people put there who are assholes seemingly for no reason. I most of them are dealing with their own insecurities and treating others in a negative way makes them temporarily better about themselves. The ironic part is that they are only spreading negativity in the world like you pointed out and in effect bringing more negativity into their own life. I guess all we can really do is try to spread the love ourselves and hope that these people come around. Thanks Alden!

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    • alden - March 18, 2013 3:51 am

      No prob!

      Yeah just dump them. Toxic people are just meant to be dumped. in the ocean.

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