Alright. Let’s just get to it.
33 real things, things which nobody want to talk about.
And social anxiety and shyness are two things you should work to get over. Why? Cause we are people. Living life. That includes living and interacting with other people.
Can’t escape that. Whether you’re aware of it or not, your life and how great it is is largely based off others.
So check it out, 33 real things about meeting people
1) Looks matter
They do. It’s a superficial world. Put in some effort to look good. If anything, when you look good, you feel good and that’s instant confidence for you.
2) People judge
We all make snap judgements. Judge wisely for yourself. Learn how to both care and not care about what others think so you can override others’ judgement of you.
3) Shyness isn’t a disease
It’s just a gap in comfort.
4) First impression matters
Cause people judge. Look good and speak well and you’re good.
5) Don’t try too hard
In fact, never try too hard.
6) Learn how to talk to people
7) Charisma isn’t magic
It’s simply having a passion and showing people you got a love in life.
8) Stop caring about what the other party thinks
People may judge, but thinking of what they make of you would only make things worse.
9) And trying to override that judgement would only make things worse
Cause then you would be trying too hard.
10) You don’t cure society anxiety overnight
It takes time.
11) You don’t cure society anxiety by reading blogs or books
You need real life experience and interaction with others.
12) Stop wondering why you aren’t a natural at it
Maybe you aren’t naturally confident in social situations, but that’s okay. You’re good at other things and it’s a matter of communicating and showing others what you’re good at. Besides, naturals don’t exist.
13) Stop caring about why others are naturals
Focus on your own shit. Don’t waste your time being jealous. You’ve your own story to tell.
14) Actively make the choice to hang out with positive people
Sometimes, it’s not about you. It’s about your environment and the sucky people within that’s causing all that discomfort.
15) People aren’t what they seem
I never envy people who are outwardly popular. Just because they’re surrounded by a lot of people doesn’t mean these people respect the “popular” one.
In this case, don’t judge them, for your own good.
16) You aren’t a loser just because you prefer to stay home
And play videogames or something.
Stop caring about what others think. Shed the stereotypes.There’re insecure people out there who don’t even dare to stay home alone, and so they validate themselves by surrounding themselves with shallow people, usually by attracting them with money.
17) Stop making up excuses for yourself
If you want to meet people and expand your social circle, get out of your comfort zone and make things happen.
18) Stop making up excuses for others
If you’ve hit your limit with somebody, it’s okay to walk away. Stop justifying why you should be their friend when you don’t even want to. There’re plenty of other suitable friends out there.
19) Don’t air your dirty laundry publicly on social media
That’s the wrong way to get attention. Everyone would just laugh at you
20) Be punctual
Punctuality is deep yo. It isn’t just about being on time, it’s how much you respect the other party AND yourself.
21) Show up
There’s huge power in this. It makes a lot of difference for you and others around you.
22) Your friends and family lie
Cause they don’t want to hurt your feelings. You may be looking like shit or acting in immature ways a lot, but you aren’t told any of that.
Be real for yourself. Reflect. Ask for the truth. Learn and grow.
23) People can be assholes
Don’t be too disheartened, angry or sad even when you meet somebody that doesn’t treat you right. Just brush it off and move on.
24) But not everyone are assholes
Open up a little. Give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes. Don’t be so cynical or paranoid.
25) Nobody likes a downer
Sure, you’ve the right to be angry or sad for whatever reason, but people can feel that negative energy coming from you. That’s a downer. Don’t be a downer.
26) People can see through you
Don’t be patronizing. Don’t be a suck up. Don’t be fake. If you’re just looking for favours, people can see through all of that and will lose respect for you.
27) Be yourself
Cause everyone else is taken.
28) Be nice
Everything else is useless if you can’t be nice. You’d be surprised how many people forgot how to be nice.
29) Be respectful
Have your manners in check. Be courteous. It’s just basic decency.
30) Treat service staff nicely
They’re also people. If you don’t, you’re an asshole and aren’t as nice as you think you are. Plus, it’s going to reflect really badly on you.
31) You’re way cooler than you actually think you are
32) Be honest
That means to say, using some pickup line or some script don’t work.
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Feel the realness baby. Jump start your social confidence. Expand your social circle today.