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33 real things about meeting people (so you can start being sociable)

Alright. Let’s just get to it.

33 real things, things which nobody want to talk about.

And social anxiety and shyness are two things you should work to get over. Why? Cause we are people. Living life. That includes living and interacting with other people.

Can’t escape that. Whether you’re aware of it or not, your life and how great it is is largely based off others.

So check it out, 33 real things about meeting people

1) Looks matter

They do. It’s a superficial world. Put in some effort to look good. If anything, when you look good, you feel good and that’s instant confidence for you.

2) People judge

We all make snap judgements. Judge wisely for yourself. Learn how to both care and not care about what others think so you can override others’ judgement of you.

3) Shyness isn’t a disease

It’s just a gap in comfort.

4) First impression matters

Cause people judge. Look good and speak well and you’re good.

5) Don’t try too hard

In fact, never try too hard.

6) Learn how to talk to people

It’s not that hard.

7) Charisma isn’t magic

It’s simply having a passion and showing people you got a love in life.

8) Stop caring about what the other party thinks

People may judge, but thinking of what they make of you would only make things worse.

9) And trying to override that judgement would only make things worse

Cause then you would be trying too hard.

10) You don’t cure society anxiety overnight

It takes time.

11) You don’t cure society anxiety by reading blogs or books

You need real life experience and interaction with others.

12) Stop wondering why you aren’t a natural at it

Maybe you aren’t naturally confident in social situations, but that’s okay. You’re good at other things and it’s a matter of communicating and showing others what you’re good at. Besides, naturals don’t exist.

13) Stop caring about why others are naturals

Focus on your own shit. Don’t waste your time being jealous. You’ve your own story to tell.

14) Actively make the choice to hang out with positive people

Sometimes, it’s not about you. It’s about your environment and the sucky people within that’s causing all that discomfort.

15) People aren’t what they seem

I never envy people who are outwardly popular. Just because they’re surrounded by a lot of people doesn’t mean these people respect the “popular” one.

In this case, don’t judge them, for your own good.

16) You aren’t a loser just because you prefer to stay home 

And play videogames or something.

Stop caring about what others think. Shed the stereotypes.There’re insecure people out there who don’t even dare to stay home alone, and so they validate themselves by surrounding themselves with shallow people, usually by attracting them with money.

17) Stop making up excuses for yourself

If you want to meet people and expand your social circle, get out of your comfort zone and make things happen.

18) Stop making up excuses for others

If you’ve hit your limit with somebody, it’s okay to walk away. Stop justifying why you should be their friend when you don’t even want to. There’re plenty of other suitable friends out there.

19) Don’t air your dirty laundry publicly on social media

That’s the wrong way to get attention. Everyone would just laugh at you

20) Be punctual

Punctuality is deep yo. It isn’t just about being on time, it’s how much you respect the other party AND yourself.

21) Show up

There’s huge power in this. It makes a lot of difference for you and others around you.

22) Your friends and family lie

Cause they don’t want to hurt your feelings. You may be looking like shit or acting in immature ways a lot, but you aren’t told any of that.

Be real for yourself. Reflect. Ask for the truth. Learn and grow.

23) People can be assholes

Don’t be too disheartened, angry or sad even when you meet somebody that doesn’t treat you right. Just brush it off and move on.

24) But not everyone are assholes

Open up a little. Give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes. Don’t be so cynical or paranoid.

25) Nobody likes a downer

Sure, you’ve the right to be angry or sad for whatever reason, but people can feel that negative energy coming from you. That’s a downer. Don’t be a downer.

26) People can see through you

Don’t be patronizing. Don’t be a suck up. Don’t be fake. If you’re just looking for favours, people can see through all of that and will lose respect for you.

27) Be yourself

Cause everyone else is taken.

28) Be nice

Everything else is useless if you can’t be nice. You’d be surprised how many people forgot how to be nice.

29) Be respectful

Have your manners in check. Be courteous. It’s just basic decency.

30) Treat service staff nicely

They’re also people. If you don’t, you’re an asshole and aren’t as nice as you think you are. Plus, it’s going to reflect really badly on you.

31) You’re way cooler than you actually think you are

32) Be honest

That means to say, using some pickup line or some script don’t work.

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6 comments

  1. Trevor - June 6, 2013 12:54 am

    Lovin’ the hard truths here Alden! Each and every point is spot on. Definitely found a few in there I need to work on. They all seem to revolve around a few key themes . . .

    Be yourself, make an effort, and treat others as you’d want to be treated.

    Follow those simple rules and you can’t go wrong.

    Good stuff Alden.

    Cheers!

    Reply
    • alden - June 6, 2013 7:10 am

      Thanks for dropping as usual man!

      Reply
  2. Razwana - June 6, 2013 6:29 am

    #20 – AMEN to that! The number of people that just decide it’s ok to be late (without prior warning) disgusts me. No respect for me or themselves.

    Y’know the funny thing about constantly thinking about what other people think of you? People don’t think about you as often as you assume – people think about themselves, man! Just like you! Vicious circle !!!

    – Razwana

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    • alden - June 6, 2013 7:10 am

      For real man. I’ve dated girls who were never on time. It boggles the mind. I’m talking up to 2 hours late, no apology and backed up by some shitty excuse.

      Haha nice insight. It’s true.

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  3. Fiona Tay - July 21, 2013 3:10 am

    20) Be punctual
    Punctuality is deep yo. It isn’t just about being on time, it’s how much you respect the other party AND yourself.
    21) Show up
    There’s huge power in this. It makes a lot of difference for you and others around you.

    These 2 are true. But “Show Up” meaning, the presence of myself during the gathering/meeting? If so, yes, I agree very much with this.. 🙂

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